ZA Dater Posted October 22, 2015 Posted October 22, 2015 It seems to me a first date is a balancing act between the two. As I guy you need to sell yourself but not too much but you also need to impress and how far does one really go? I have always gone with the intention of just being me and not crowing on about what I have done and rather take an interest in the date but lately I wonder if I shouldn't sell myself more, be more superficial as opposed to just being me. What do the ladies here say about this? Perhaps the biggest lesson one could learn is what ladies actually find impressive because I truly have no idea...
d0nnivain Posted October 22, 2015 Posted October 22, 2015 I find self confidence impressive. I like to hear about some of my dates accomplishments but it has to be a balance between the great thing you did at work & something recreational you did. It can't sound like bragging. Guys who are interested are also good. Look her in the eyes when she talks & actively listen. Ask follow up questions which show you were paying attention.
Guyouthere Posted October 22, 2015 Posted October 22, 2015 women love you admiring their physical features. Examine her arms, ask her how much experience she has with yard work. lol Show interest in her hidden side….. Ask her if she likes to be out in the yard at night. Then lay it all out, thus showing confidence…. Tell her you need an accomplice to bury some bodies. This ensures an interesting second date
Author ZA Dater Posted October 22, 2015 Author Posted October 22, 2015 I find self confidence impressive. I like to hear about some of my dates accomplishments but it has to be a balance between the great thing you did at work & something recreational you did. It can't sound like bragging. Guys who are interested are also good. Look her in the eyes when she talks & actively listen. Ask follow up questions which show you were paying attention. Obviously its vital to pay attention and ask questions but what does one do when the lady asks no questions, does that mean she isn't interested in ones achievements or she doesn't really consider them that impressive.
d0nnivain Posted October 22, 2015 Posted October 22, 2015 When she doesn't ask Qs it could mean she's not interested. It could also mean she's shy & a bad conversationalist. It depends on the body language. 1
Author ZA Dater Posted October 22, 2015 Author Posted October 22, 2015 When she doesn't ask Qs it could mean she's not interested. It could also mean she's shy & a bad conversationalist. It depends on the body language. If its an outgoing person I usually default to the bold reasoning.
Els Posted October 22, 2015 Posted October 22, 2015 Bragging is a terrible idea and will disqualify you in most decent women's books. On the other hand, nobody likes to listen to someone put himself down all night either. Try for a balance. 'Being you' is generally a good idea but it also depends on what 'you' are like...
Author ZA Dater Posted October 22, 2015 Author Posted October 22, 2015 Bragging is a terrible idea and will disqualify you in most decent women's books. On the other hand, nobody likes to listen to someone put himself down all night either. Try for a balance. 'Being you' is generally a good idea but it also depends on what 'you' are like... I guess this topic is because I came to the realisation if you take someone on a date you need to actually prove you are better than any other suitor she may meet. Its tough to figure out how to do that..
Qboro90 Posted October 24, 2015 Posted October 24, 2015 I guess this topic is because I came to the realisation if you take someone on a date you need to actually prove you are better than any other suitor she may meet. Its tough to figure out how to do that.. Why would you think that? How'd you come to that realization? You'll never get a girl to enjoy your company if you're just putting on a show and outwardly trying to hard. You don't need to prove anything on a date. You don't need to sell anything about yourself. You just act like you would act socially interacting getting to know someone, informing them on the parts of your life that come up in conversation. Anytime you go out with someone expect to be the one who directs the conversation and has starting off points to talk about. If you're at a restaurant while you're looking at the menu and want to get past the mundane convo then ask her "ok so random question, if you were having your last meal tomorrow... What would you ask for?". Fun, lighthearted, gets her interacting and opening up. Then prepare to have her ask you the same thing back so you can lead that into whatever you'd like. Maybe you got a lot of home cooked meals at home growing up so you can work in your childhood and how you grew up. Maybe you travel for work so you found that food in ____ country was incredible. You're not competing against anyone. You've already won her time and attention for the night. She's not thinking about the imaginary guy she might meet 3 years from now and how perfect he is. She's not thinking "well I have another date next Friday, this guy better do a good job or else he's gonna lose"... That's not happening. Don't think about that.
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