catlady11 Posted October 22, 2015 Posted October 22, 2015 Met a guy in person from OLD. He's smart, he's kind, has a sense of humor, owns his own home and has his own business. Not bad looking. However some things make me pause...he talks A LOT. Which is great because there's never that uncomfortable silence and he does ask me a lot about myself. It's like he goes a million miles a minute (he made a reference that he has ADD, don't know if he was joking or really serious). We've met twice, both times at a Starbucks. Today was our second meeting and he told me had a margarita at lunch. No big deal really. I know he drinks some. He also seems sort of fidgety I guess you could call it. Things is I don't feel any chemistry. I don't know if it's because I'm gun shy (breaking up with my ex devastated me and it still hurts) and I'm keeping my distance to protect myself or there's nothing there. He's been divorced 11 years, admitted that he cheated on his wife and that broke up the marriage. Said that they hadn't been intimate in 2 years so he had an affair with someone in his office. He wants to take me out to dinner and I don't know if I should go or not. With my ex that chemistry was there within minutes of our first meeting but I'm trying to be fair and not compare.
d0nnivain Posted October 22, 2015 Posted October 22, 2015 For some people that connection can grow over time. For me, it was either there from the beginning or it didn't exist. All the time in the world wouldn't change things. If you are like me, you can't let this guy waste his time or money taking you out to dinner. You have a built in excuse. Just say you don't think you are ready to date right now. That is true. In this moment with him, you don't want to date. That may change a few minutes from now if you meet a guy who gets your motor running but at the moment you say the words they will be true.
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