Is It Worth it For Me To Try Online Dating?

[Symphony7X]

I tried it for a few years ago to no avail - I basically could get not a response from any of the females I messaged. My question is it worth trying again?

 

My stats

- 26

- college educated/successful (have my own house already)

- normal height with a football player build

- no kids

 

I'm interested in a similar female - somebody reasonably attractive at least in decent shape with no kids. Doesn't have to be college educated but at least be somewhat intelligent. I'm looking for a girlfriend, not just to get laid

 

Is it worth it to try again? I am a pretty good writer but I'm not good at that dancing clown routine where I can just write about myself and be very funny and entertaining. I'm afraid I may come across as slightly boring in how I message women - in real life, I'm a lot of fun and I crack jokes but I find it very difficult to convey that in messages online.

 

Edited October 22, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[EricaH329]

Should you try online dating? Why not? If you're ready to date, signing up for an OLD site only increases your chances of finding someone - and at the same time allows you to narrow your search (no kids, intelligent, etc.).

 

As far as writing a description of yourself goes - I believe it's basic knowledge that there's no way to fully convey your personality through a brief paragraph or two. As long as you get across what's important to you, and the things you enjoy doing, the women who have similar interests will respond (hopefully).

[Ami1uwant]

Give it a try....

 

Generally early 30s online isn't the best option because not many are using it. They are meeting people through friends, at bars, and social network.

 

When you get into your late 20s social dating is harder as more people have pared off snd got married so there is less social avenues.

[Symphony7X]

Should you try online dating? Why not?

 

 

 

online dating for men can be just atrocious...I've heard lots of horror stories even from men who are good looking who have no problem dating in real life

 

 

 

the difficulty level is just incredible when you're messaging somebody who is getting hit on 5000 times a day. You either have to be male model (top 0.001%) handsome or be incredibly entertaining.

[EricaH329]

online dating for men can be just atrocious...I've heard lots of horror stories even from men who are good looking who have no problem dating in real life

 

 

 

the difficulty level is just incredible when you're messaging somebody who is getting hit on 5000 times a day. You either have to be male model (top 0.001%) handsome or be incredibly entertaining.

 

If i'm not mistaken, the whole point of OLD is to venture out further than your social circle allows. If you don't meet anyone through OLD, are you any worse off?

 

As far as women getting messaged 5,000 times a day - well - i've never heard of such a thing (and I know it was an exaggeration, but even so)! Maybe if the woman was in a densely populated area, and if that's the case then your options should be much larger.

 

I use an OLD site and I consider myself to be pretty, but I only get messaged maybe once a day. It doesn't bother me, though. My self-worth and confidence isn't attained from people I don't know. I use it to further my prospects. If it works - great!! If not, then i'll keep looking!

[Symphony7X]

If i'm not mistaken, the whole point of OLD is to venture out further than your social circle allows. If you don't meet anyone through OLD, are you any worse off?

 

As far as women getting messaged 5,000 times a day - well - i've never heard of such a thing (and I know it was an exaggeration, but even so)! Maybe if the woman was in a densely populated area, and if that's the case then your options should be much larger.

 

There's probably 10 million people within 60 miles of me but even so, I doubt that will play to my favor. Every online dating site is overfilled with dudes. The competition is ridiculous.

 

What hurts me beyond everything is that I'm 26 so I'm going for women my age - who tend to get messaged by every male on the planet from 18 to 80. It doesn't surprise me at all that I could not get anywhere my first try.

 

 

I use an OLD site and I consider myself to be pretty, but I only get messaged maybe once a day.

 

That's pretty astonishing. Where do you live? backwoods Alabama?

[EricaH329]

There's probably 10 million people within 60 miles of me but even so, I doubt that will play to my favor. Every online dating site is overfilled with dudes. The competition is ridiculous.

 

What hurts me beyond everything is that I'm 26 so I'm going for women my age - who tend to get messaged by every male on the planet from 18 to 80. It doesn't surprise me at all that I could not get anywhere my first try.

 

Who said anything about getting somewhere on the first try? Quite the contrary!

 

At this point (without currently being on an OLD site) I think you are making assumptions. Yes - you will most likely send out more messages than you receive, and yes - you will most certainly become frustrated with OLD at some point; but if you go into this knowing that all you are doing is opening another door to dating, then you won't be so heartbroken if it doesn't work out.

 

I understand that dating is tiresome. Trust me, i'm right there with ya! But I don't let it overwhelm me. At the current moment, I just got a message for the first time in about 4 or 5 days. I don't sit around waiting for it to happen. And I don't get upset when it doesn't work out. It's just part of putting yourself out there.

 

That's pretty astonishing. Where do you live? backwoods Alabama?

 

No, not Alabama, but a good half an hour away from town. Still, i've increased the distance for men i'm searching for, and not much seems to be happening. They are out there, but I guess they are too busy messaging the women who get 5,000 messages Oh well!

[Symphony7X]

Who said anything about getting somewhere on the first try? Quite the contrary!

 

At this point (without currently being on an OLD site) I think you are making assumptions. Yes - you will most likely send out more messages than you receive, and yes - you will most certainly become frustrated with OLD at some point; but if you go into this knowing that all you are doing is opening another door to dating, then you won't be so heartbroken if it doesn't work out.

 

I understand that dating is tiresome. Trust me, i'm right there with ya! But I don't let it overwhelm me. At the current moment, I just got a message for the first time in about 4 or 5 days. I don't sit around waiting for it to happen. And I don't get upset when it doesn't work out. It's just part of putting yourself out there.

 

 

When I tried it last, I think I sent out 70 or 80 messages without a single reply back. We're not talking about no dates - we're talking zero replies. It was incredibly demoralizing. It just made me wonder if I'm that far below on the totem pole where women are easily finding men that much better looking and more exciting than myself.

 

 

I don't think I'm an ugly guy. I've had people rave in real life about how incredibly good looking I am and what not. I'm also proud man. Part of what makes me hesitate to try it again is that I don't want to go through that incredibly demoralizing experience again.