Diagnosed life threatening disease, broke NC but he's not answering his phone

[allofyou]

3 days ago he was begging me not to go NC. I pushed him to block me then he did. I was in too much pain and anger back then.

 

Now he's not answering my calls I've been ringing him for the past hour for literally 100 times and emailing him too. I am in such a life crisis how can he just ignore me? Is this the man who was crazily in love with me?

 

I am in so much pain i can just die. Literally just want to die

[mightycpa]

Why are you bothering him? You asked him to block you, so he did. You're not his problem any more. Your problems are not his problems any more. You are unbelievably selfish. Yes, even with your new diagnosis. He's said his goodbyes, and you've said yours. Move on.

 

Don't you have other people to support you?

 

Seriously, leave him out of this. He's probably hurting enough already. Suffer in silence.

[allofyou]

Why are you bothering him? You asked him to block you, so he did. You're not his problem any more. Your problems are not his problems any more. You are unbelievably selfish. Yes, even with your new diagnosis. He's said his goodbyes, and you've said yours. Move on.

 

Don't you have other people to support you?

 

Seriously, leave him out of this. He's probably hurting enough already. Suffer in silence.

 

 

 

How can you move on so quickly if you truly love someone?

 

I dont want to talk to other people jsut yet the moment i heard the news i just want to talk to him

[ConfusedHumanBeing]

How can you move on so quickly if you truly love someone?

 

I dont want to talk to other people jsut yet the moment i heard the news i just want to talk to him

 

Well, you told him not to talk to you and that was three days ago....and now you want to talk? Sounds like he doesn't want to. You can't make anyone talk to you.

 

If he moved on so fast, he probably wasn't in love with you as you thought he was.

[allofyou]

Well, you told him not to talk to you and that was three days ago....and now you want to talk? Sounds like he doesn't want to. You can't make anyone talk to you.

 

If he moved on so fast, he probably wasn't in love with you as you thought he was.

 

 

Because i still love him very much. Pushing him to do NC wasn't because I dont want to be with him any more.

[mightycpa]

How can you move on so quickly if you truly love someone?

 

I dont want to talk to other people jsut yet the moment i heard the news i just want to talk to him

I'll take those in reverse order:

 

What it sounds like is you want to burden him with your new issue because you don't have anybody else to burden. You don't want him. You want his shoulder to cry on. That is the definition of selfishness.

 

How do you move on so quickly? If he had moved on, he'd pick up the phone and tell you how sorry he was, then go back to making out with his new girl. Instead, he has surveyed his situation, and his ex decided that she didn't want anything to do with him. Now all of a sudden she's blowing up his phone. Hopefully, he won't break down in a moment of weakness, and your attempts at contact will soon be electronically rebuffed. If you truly have a life threatening illness, you might do better writing him an apology for your behavior, and express your gratitude to him for the time he spent with you.

 

I know this sounds harsh, but you are learning the hard way that breaking it off with people has consequences. You fully accepted them before your diagnosis. But if you think about it, nothing has really changed, except for the level of your neediness and your new motivation.

 

Seriously, I beg of you, leave him alone. He can't help you.

[allofyou]

You don't want him. You want his shoulder to cry on. That is the definition of selfishness.

 

 

I had to do NC wasn't because I don't want to be with him.

 

 

If you truly have a life threatening illness, you might do better writing him an apology for your behavior, and express your gratitude to him for the time he spent with you.

 

I did that before I went to the doctor's today because I was in too much pain and anger when I pushed for NC. And he only replied me saying he appreciaes my apologies and he'd send me my stuff.

[allofyou]

@mightycpa

We broke up because we both want to be with each other but too stupid to make it work. We didnt even know what to do. I was angry, upset, thinking he didn;t love me then pushed for NC.

 

But I think youre right, i should stop being selfish

[dumbass2]

I've read your previous posts. I'm sorry for what you are going through, but please leave this man alone. You have not treated him well at all. Turn to family, friends or church, but let this man be. It would be extremely selfish of you to contact him and lay your new information on him and expect him to be there for you....extremely selfish

[mightycpa]

@mightycpa

We broke up because we both want to be with each other but too stupid to make it work. We didnt even know what to do. I was angry, upset, thinking he didn;t love me then pushed for NC.

 

But I think youre right, i should stop being selfish

Yes. It sounds like you've got bigger things to think about. You should focus on that.

[allofyou]

Yes. It sounds like you've got bigger things to think about. You should focus on that.

 

I wasn;t aware that I was being selfish. I was just really scared and crying my eyes out and the first thing i wanted to do is just talk to him. My intention wasn't to burden him. We were best friends and did everything together, talked about every little small problem we have.