jrode23 Posted October 21, 2015 Posted October 21, 2015 I am interested in a discussion about the different ways of handling your ex as far as social media post-breakup. From almost everything I've read here on LS, the immediate advice is to unfriend, delete, delete, delete. From a personal standpoint, having been broken up with a week ago, I just can't bring myself to deleting her. We had 14 wonderful months, I don't really hold any real animosity towards her, and as much as the breakup hurts, writing her out of my life and deleting her presence forever has been hard to pull the trigger on. I suppose I could unfriend her and then, when the time is right, request again. I have heard about unfriending stirring up arguments, and even more drama, as well. However, what I've done for now is just unfollow her feed on Facebook so I don't have to see life updates, etc. Curious to hear what others think.
BonerFide Posted October 21, 2015 Posted October 21, 2015 Call me stupid, but after my last break up I actually didn't delete anything. He deleted me on Snapchat a few days after as I was posting stories of me and my friends and it was likely annoying him to see me happy/without him (blind speculation there). Then he unfollowed me on Instagram, which I found quite immature as I hadn't unfollowed him when he started posting, but I didn't really care. I unfollowed him about a week ago when I realised it was kind of dumb to still be following him unrequitedly. We're still friends on Facebook. Unfriending someone on Facebook is really public, so I wouldn't even bother if I were you. Deleting them on Instagram/Twitter/Snapchat is so you don't have to constantly be reminded of their existence. Unfriending them on Facebook seems pointless as long as you unfollow their feed (which they won't even know about). I honestly never go on his Facebook anyway though, I'd only consider blocking an ex if I couldn't stop myself from going on their profile or if I really didn't want them to see what I was doing, but that's never been the case. I know pulling the trigger is hard, believe me. Unfollowing him seemed so final, which is why I put it off. Ultimately it's just another part of breaking up though, and if you two reconcile or become friends, it's not like blocking/unfollowing is permanent, if that makes you feel any better. I have kept the photos/gifts of us/from him as I want to have them to look back on once I'm far removed from the situation. I would say it's not necessary as long as you aren't seeing them every day. So unless your ex's presence on social media is tormenting you, I wouldn't make it such a big deal as some people on LS do
LoveIsMyReligion Posted October 21, 2015 Posted October 21, 2015 Sometimes I look at these topics and have to pause for a moment to think about how ridiculous the questions are... especially in comparison to all of the crazy **** going on in the world such as world hunger, genocide in the middle east, etc... Don't get me wrong, I do sympathize and I'm sure I've brought up a topic such as this when I was younger but you need to ****ing let go. Accept the fact that what you had together was nice but that it had to come to an end for reasons beyond us. Write down what you've learned and close the chapter. I promise you will survive after unfriending her. It will suck for a little while, much like when a drug addict goes cold turkey, but in the big picture you are doing your body/mind a huge favor.
Author jrode23 Posted October 21, 2015 Author Posted October 21, 2015 Sometimes I look at these topics and have to pause for a moment to think about how ridiculous the questions are... especially in comparison to all of the crazy **** going on in the world such as world hunger, genocide in the middle east, etc... Don't get me wrong, I do sympathize and I'm sure I've brought up a topic such as this when I was younger but you need to ****ing let go. Accept the fact that what you had together was nice but that it had to come to an end for reasons beyond us. Write down what you've learned and close the chapter. I promise you will survive after unfriending her. It will suck for a little while, much like when a drug addict goes cold turkey, but in the big picture you are doing your body/mind a huge favor. I am in the process of letting go. What we had was nice and, as I said, I don't hold any major grudges against her. Which is why it's hard to just permanently get rid of her. There isn't anything that would prevent me from being civil with her in the future, when I have everything together. I feel like unfollowing someone's feed, at least on Facebook, accomplishes the same thing without as much of a permanent impact. Also, what kind of discussion are you expecting here? We're here talking about relationships. That, in general, is nothing compared to most of the real problems in the world. So, by your logic, this site is ridiculous.
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