is this a good sign?

[Odinani]

I notice that in my current relationship I am suddenly much more confident at my job and performing better there. And also I am being kinder to myself and generally taking really good care of myself.

 

In previous relationships I've never had this happen.

 

This is a good sign, right?

[Redhead14]

I notice that in my current relationship I am suddenly much more confident at my job and performing better there. And also I am being kinder to myself and generally taking really good care of myself.

 

In previous relationships I've never had this happen.

 

This is a good sign, right?

 

It isn't a bad thing -- however, I'd be a little concerned that you're doing all this "because" you have somebody in your life. You should be doing all these things regardless of who you're with or what your relationship status is.

 

It is good that this person is making you happy and confident, but there shouldn't be so much that rides on whether another person is causing you to do this.

 

In other words, a woman doesn't need a man to make her happy. She should be happy in herself. Having a man in her life should only enhance the happiness she has with herself.

 

And, the flip side of this, is that it sounds like when you've been in other relationships, those things suffered.

 

Enjoy this time and I wish you all the best. Stay centered and focused on your needs and you will be a good partner.

[Odinani]

It isn't a bad thing -- however, I'd be a little concerned that you're doing all this "because" you have somebody in your life. You should be doing all these things regardless of who you're with or what your relationship status is.

 

It is good that this person is making you happy and confident, but there shouldn't be so much that rides on whether another person is causing you to do this.

In other words, a woman doesn't need a man to make her happy. She should be happy in herself. Having a man in her life should only enhance the happiness she has with herself.

 

And, the flip side of this, is that it sounds like when you've been in other relationships, those things suffered.

 

Enjoy this time and I wish you all the best. Stay centered and focused on your needs and you will be a good partner.

 

It's not like I was underperforming at work or on the verge of losing my job or like I wasn't already taking care of myself. In this relationship these things have been enhanced and taken to the next level.

 

I don't think I said anywhere in my post that I needed a man to make me happy or that I wasn't happy before I met him.

[smackie9]

When you are happy, you are positive, when you are positive things are better in life over all.....pretty simple.

[Guyouthere]

I think it is interesting to note than studies have been done on this.

 

The conclusion is that for most men (especially men), they live longer, are generally in better health when they have a woman in their life.

 

Compared to the single ones, especially as they get older, who tend to be less willing or able to take care of themselves (many simply lack the motivation because they see their married counterparts with a much more fulfilling life).

[Redhead14]

It's not like I was underperforming at work or on the verge of losing my job or like I wasn't already taking care of myself. In this relationship these things have been enhanced and taken to the next level.

 

I don't think I said anywhere in my post that I needed a man to make me happy or that I wasn't happy before I met him.

 

I didn't mean to imply that you needed a man, I just wanted to highlight for you.

 

It just sounded to me like things had improved in those areas so much as a result of the relationship thus the question.