le_20 Posted October 21, 2015 Posted October 21, 2015 Had been chatting with this guy more than half year and dating with him for 2 months but he moved back to his country permanently.His country is 10 hours different.Since our dates were great,he bought me an airticket and i just came back from visiting him. I stayed at his place and he covered all my expenses(i did bring money but he insisted to pay) So here are positive/sweet things and negatives things i saw… Positive: 1)I met his good friend and was invited to his friend’s thanksgiving family lunch.Had a great time. His friend’s parents liked me and said I’m a very nice/good girl. 2)I love autumn setting and the leaves’ changing colors very much.He drove 5 hours to take me to northern area of his country,so i can see the beautiful setting of autumn. 3)We took nice walks in his residential area and he talked a lot about how he started his company,showed me the house which he bought while he just started his business and also showed me houses which he once lived. He also showed me the building where he worked after he just graduated from university and also the building where he once ran his company. 4)I had too much food during daytime and took yogurt for dinner.He brought cookies,bread,jam…etc to my side, spread jam on toasts and cookies,handed to me,slice by slice,piece by piece. 5)we slept on the same bed.One night i went to bed early and he was still doing with his stuff.His puppy jumped in the sheets and stayed beside me while i was sleeping. When i woke up at midnight, I found him hugging me really tight, it was kinda like telling me “sorry for letting you sleep alone” 6)He played piano for me,it was his all time favorite romantic song. 7)He shared a lot of his personal feelings and also let me know his past history. 8)He took me along when he wanted to watch football match at his friend’s house. 9)He took me to watch films and we have lots of common interest in films. 10)We also have lots of common interest in other stuff,such as food. While looking at the menu, we spoke out the same food at the same time,it happened for times! Negative things 1) He didnt hold my hand in the public. 2)His friend thought he is single until his friend met me. Yet,the situation was a bit awkward,he introduced me by calling my name, his friend found out we werent “just friend” through his action( I brought him his favorite food all the way to his country,he was really happy and kissed on my cheek in front of his friend). his friend wished him”enjoy your date”. After his friend’s thanksgiving family lunch, his friend’s mum mentioned me but didnt know my “status”, so she ended up telling him “your friend is a nice girl” 3)the last day,before heading to the airport, he said he did consider come back to my country but due to his mum’s health and he wasnt really happy during the years staying in my country( because he doesnt know the language and also the cultural differences),meanwhile his business isnt based in my country….he said he does wish to but probably will not moving back to my country. Since i still have things to finish in my country and this may takes me few years to complete,he asked me to focus on my things. ” Dont be sad….dont rush for thing,if something is bound to happen, it will come to you naturally in the right time” It sounds like he treats me with reserve,he doesnt want to completely cut off,yet doesnt want to commit to me. It’s been 4 days since i came back,he hasnt messaged me yet,but last night he visited my facebook for times and liked every photos which he hadnt liked,he also commented on one of it. Almost very post on my FB homepage has his “like” We havent have "real sex" yet but we did have lots of foreplays. I'm still virgin and he seems like want to hold out on sex. Let me know how you think.
Toodaloo Posted October 21, 2015 Posted October 21, 2015 I think he has realised that although you are a lovely girl you are in another country and its not going to work. So he had a lovely time with you, enjoyed your visit and now has gone back to reality. I think you need to accept that this isn't going anywhere. He hasn't contacted you because he wants you to move on. But what you could do is phone, write, email and actually ask him for his opinion on the matter.
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