it ends before it even begins :(

[hellohellohello]

So I was really hopeful about how things were with this guy, who I know for a fact had been eyeing me for months... but he seems to have changed his mind.

 

I actually HAD expected him to change his mind immediately after I started talking to him, but weeks passed by... and he seemed like he didn't mind what I was really like. Somewhat ironically, just after I let my guard down and convinced myself there was nothing I could do to turn him off... it did...?

 

I know if he doesn't like me for who I am there's nothing I can do, and it feels silly considering we were never officially dating. Still, this is the first time I've been "dumped."

[Toddbt12y1]

Somethings just fall apart. Just keep moving forward....Something will work out, eventually.

[ExpatInItaly]

What do you mean when you say he seems to have changed his mind? Did he just fade away or did he tell you it wasn't working for him?

[hellohellohello]

What do you mean when you say he seems to have changed his mind? Did he just fade away or did he tell you it wasn't working for him?

 

What difference would it make, really?

 

But the answer is fade away, I guess. Not as available as he used to be. Has fewer questions for me. Responses are more on the polite side. Overall, just seems like he's losing interest.

 

I'll point out here that I look/dress a certain way and people consistently have this expectation that I'm a certain kind of person, which just doesn't jibe with what I'm really like once they get to know me. My guess is, for all those months, he wasn't really interested in me. Rather, he was interested in the version of me he had in his head.

 

I don't know why I'm this disappointed. To be honest, I also had expected him to be a certain kind of person, and what he's really like doesn't live up to my expectations. I still thought we had a connection though.