kellyp1 Posted May 22, 2005 Posted May 22, 2005 How do you know what the balance is between showing too much interest and not enough? I saw some posts recently that refer to this but I am just curious how you know it is the right amount and then also, how do you do this without playing a game? Just curious, doesn't necessarily apply to me at the moment, I am just wondering.
scratch Posted May 23, 2005 Posted May 23, 2005 Originally posted by kellyp1 How do you know what the balance is between showing too much interest and not enough? How do you do this without playing a game? 1. This is a pretty eternal question for which nobody has a definite answer. I've looked at this a lot, mostly through trial and error (and error, and error...) and all I've realized is that it's different for everyone. Variables include how much they like you, how much you like them, how you demonstrate that interest, and how they want/need to be treated. I could go on. If you like, we could discuss what tends to work more often than not. But unfortunately, there is no way to know if it will work on any given person. 2. There is no such thing as not playing a game - it's a matter of degree. As I mentioned in the other thread, if you are open to someone (i.e. willing to see them and talk to them - and eventually sleep with them) and treat them respectfully and politely, almost anything you do to mask what might be overly high interest is acceptable. Think about it like this - you're only disguising your interest in order to have a successful relationship with them in the long run. Why is that at all objectionable?
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