smile95 Posted May 22, 2005 Posted May 22, 2005 I was dating a guy for 3 yrs(long distance) and he has gone thru periods where he will ignore me and is stressed out from work and me and his divorce. 5 times in 3 yrs he has suddenly stopped talking to me for no reason, only for me to chase him for 2 wks or so, then I give up. After me not chasing him for a bout a month, he calls me professing his love for me and I get so emotional and take him back. I do not want to do this this time. Last time I said NO MORE. So we have not talked in about 2 wks and I did start NC 3 days ago. I miss him so much and just want to tell him I love him, but I know he will ignore me. SO when I do NC(even when he gets back in touch with me as always) so I continue to do NC and not answer? WIll I really get over him by doing this? I love him, but I know we will not work. He works too much and never makes enough time for me. I just want to be reassured that my feelings will fade. How do I be strong and not answer when or if he does call and tell me he loves me??????
kaylap89 Posted May 22, 2005 Posted May 22, 2005 Honey.....it is tough! Trust me im going thru Nc right now, and in the beginning I kept cracking and calling him. And then afterwards I felt like such a fool, because I knew things would never change. NC Id have to say if the toughest thing I ever did in my life. Becuase I still love him, and I still want him back, and no matter what he does to me Id always love him. Ok listen to me...and listen good....What happened everytime you took him back, things never changed right? Well what would change this time....nothing, I think its all a game to him, and if he really cared he wouldnt ignore you. I know its hard to hear, and its not what you wanna hear but its the truth. This site made me realize im not alone, also http://www.enotalone.com it a good site to share your feelings.
Author smile95 Posted May 22, 2005 Author Posted May 22, 2005 see I love him too-no matter what and I know he loves me but he takes me for granted and prob just thinks that he can get me back anytime with his words. Things DO change, for a whole week maybe and then it is back to crap! I hate it. I get so excited that he has changed and it goes away. This time I am not going to take him back. I know he will try harder then. It is a game to him. I can only change this now. I am just scared I will not stick to this if he calls me. I guess I just cannot answer? It is tough to let go of someone you really love. thanks!
Author smile95 Posted May 22, 2005 Author Posted May 22, 2005 1 more thing...everytime we get back, I sit there and wonder"THIS is what i was so upset over?" I have built him up to be perfect and he is far from it. I think I am in love with being in love and for 3 yrs I imagined us together forever and now it sux to start over? Sometimes I feel being with him is better than nothing? I am 28 and scared to never be able to start a family!
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