sadhk Posted October 20, 2015 Posted October 20, 2015 hello everyone, i'm a new member here on the forum, and this is my story: I started no contact last wednsday and the reason is: 13 days ago on a thursday i had lunch with my boyfiend at his place, and he was travelling that day and for the rest of the week end. before he left he asked me to do the dishes before leaving, and then left for his travel. but that day i left without washing the dishes. a day after he returned i accidently bumped into him at his workplace and all he said to me was: "how could you leave without washing the dishes and leave them for an entire week end? shame on you! bye!!" and left without giving me a chance to answer,his way was very cold not as usual, i was left standing there like a fool.he did not contact me afterwards, so i took what he did for a break up and immediatly went into defensive mode and didn't try to contact him either. the next day i went to see him at his office trying to figure out what really hapened but he wasn't there. i insisted on his secretary to let him know that i waited for him when he returns. still there was no contact from his side, so i went in no contact, because i was afraid that he would reject me coldly and bluntly if i made any move, and that would kill me. i just couldn't take the risque. it's been a week now that we didn't contact each other. so i have two questions that are torturing me right now i really need help figuring out! - was this actually a break up or was he waiting for me to apologise? - and if it is indeed a break up, are unwashed dishes really a reason to break up with somebody over?
J21 Posted October 20, 2015 Posted October 20, 2015 (edited) I think there was mistakes on both sides. The guy over reacted, and you assume it was already over without talking about it. We don't know your ex-bf, so we don't know if he is waiting for you to apologize--But if you were infact sorry, I would assume you would text him a message of that sort. "Hey I know you asked to do the dishes, but I'm sorry I forgot. Can we talk about it in person?" Seems like the lack of communication was the cause of breakdown more than anything. Edited October 20, 2015 by J21
Author sadhk Posted October 20, 2015 Author Posted October 20, 2015 thak you so much J21 for the reply it's true , though the way he treated me was so cold, it made me so scared of him breaking my heart by rejecting me to my face. I just couldn't get past the fear, although i tried seeing him the next day but he wasn't there, and he knows i tried to see him and still he made no move and all of this because i didn't wash the dishes
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