Author OK_computer Posted October 22, 2015 Author Posted October 22, 2015 She's a co-worker that you're in the friend zone with. 1) Having lunch is not a "date". It's purposely set up to spend less time with you. Why? She doesn't want romance w/you and she knows that you do. So to be nice, she grabs lunch knowing you have to be back to work. Unlike actual dates that take place at night which can be extended or end in someone's place. 2) She doesn't want to actually be alone with you. Unlike grabbing a lunch, a movie theater is in the dark, could lead to touching, kissing, etc.. So that's why she's uncomfortable and wants her friends there to be a buffer. See but that's also something that confuses me, because she was completely fine with it until right before the fight. So what I'm confused about is the change to group outing instead of alone because of her religion (as shes saying) or because of the fight? And when i asked her is it because of the fight, she said no, it's because she's never been alone with a guy to the movies before. (but she was fine going alone with me til we fought). So is she lying or what? That's whats messing with my head. In other words, she doesn't trust me anymore?
Els Posted October 22, 2015 Posted October 22, 2015 (edited) Where I'm from, an unwed couple cuddling will get you arrested by the religious council agency thing. Ha. I glanced at a couple of your other posts and I think I know which country you're talking about. I think this is the best thing to do.. in the reality of things. It's just the long time we worked together alone and the attachment I'm facing right now that's really painful. I don't know best way to start no contact, nor how to suddenly act distant.. Yeah, it's hard if you've already formed an attachment. But imagine how much harder it'll be several months down the road? Just keep things professional and cordial in the future. Edited October 22, 2015 by Elswyth 1
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