risjurad Posted October 20, 2015 Posted October 20, 2015 Currently 35. Asked a couple of girls out, who said no. I've always been lazy about this sort of thing. Now's a good time to get more serious into dating. While I'm not going to force it, I'm going to try to give my folks a biological offspring if possible. (And no, I'm sticking with one kid, so if it's a daughter who won't be carrying on the family name, then so be it!). If not, I can say I'll be alone due to circumstances and not lack of serious effort. Some obstacles that are really a stick in the mud are.. 1) relocated for a new job. Small town of only has 25K people or so. Basically, most of the women here are either married, have kids, or are kids themselves. I've gotten some local hits on dating apps like Plenty Of Fish, but after a couple of messages, nothing further. Some folks say to steer clear of the ladies in town. I'm not picky (although I'm divided on considering women with only 1 child), and will consider dating them, but that hasn't been happening anyways. 2) town is at a remote location. Any other town close by... within an hour have a few thousand to few hundred people so that's not going to cut it. Large towns and cities are 1.5 hours, 2, and 2.5 hours away (300K people, or millions). I don't have dating experience, let alone long any for long distance, and I'm aware that many have ended simply due to difficulty in making that work. Any tips for overcoming these 2 issues in trying to get a date? For dating apps, I message them first about something from their profile. 1 out of every 8 to 12 or so will respond back. A smaller percentage gets past the 1st round of messages. I typically ask to meet them in person at the 2nd to 4th message, but have never heard back from any of them at that point either. For in person encounters when I visit those larger places, I try to flirt with them. Half success and not. I'll admit I've never had the guts to ask them out in this situation. Here I take it it's better to be upfront that you're from out of town? I did speed dating one time (in another region), and some folks tell me you really shouldn't bother dating folks in city when you're in the suburbs.
d0nnivain Posted October 20, 2015 Posted October 20, 2015 You need to figure out where the single people in town go. Tell co-workers & friends that you are open to being fixed up. Be friendly when you are out. Smile & say hello to a variety of people. Expand your social circle -- volunteer somewhere to meet people you might not meet in your work life.
Author risjurad Posted January 16, 2016 Author Posted January 16, 2016 You need to figure out where the single people in town go. Tell co-workers & friends that you are open to being fixed up. Be friendly when you are out. Smile & say hello to a variety of people. Expand your social circle -- volunteer somewhere to meet people you might not meet in your work life. Unfortunately, I don't think I can use coworkers... Folks may think I come off as "odd" or "weird". Smiling and saying hi is a start, but then I need to find the right time to ask if they're single or not. Too soon, and I seem like a creep. Too late, and the window may be past. I've considered joining a church or a gym to meet single ladies, but unfortunately, it seems disingenuous when meeting women is the only reason I'm doing it.
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