Spoonss Posted October 20, 2015 Posted October 20, 2015 So my ex and I split about a week and a half ago. I ****ed up big time was being a selfish ****ty boyfriend. She finally dumped me after a huge fight. I know the break up was my fault. I told her i wanted to change she met up with me 2 times said she didnt want to work things out. She then yesterday met me at a friends house we talked outside for a good 30 minutes i heard her out she said she wanted to work towards being in a relationship again but I have to show her im not going to treat her like ****. She said its not going to be the same instantly but she does want to see improvements on my end and still wants to see me slowly to build the trust again. Is this a bad sign or is she just trying to make this easier? We dated for 8 months she also said she loved me so much and that shes never had a connection as strong as ours in a relationship we are both 27. I am confused as to how to proceed with this situation?
ExpatInItaly Posted October 20, 2015 Posted October 20, 2015 You first have to identify exactly how you treated her poorly. Then ask yourself why. And how you will avoid repeating the behaviour in the future. Take measurable steps. Understand that you need to make these changes for you. Also it's important that 8 months isn't so long and she might feel there's not much of a foundation to return to. All you can do is make the changes you feel you need to and see if she responds. Don't come at her full-force; she's already warned you that you need to proceed slowly.
Author Spoonss Posted October 20, 2015 Author Posted October 20, 2015 You first have to identify exactly how you treated her poorly. Then ask yourself why. And how you will avoid repeating the behaviour in the future. Take measurable steps. Understand that you need to make these changes for you. Also it's important that 8 months isn't so long and she might feel there's not much of a foundation to return to. All you can do is make the changes you feel you need to and see if she responds. Don't come at her full-force; she's already warned you that you need to proceed slowly. Well i am taking those steps made an appointment with a therapist , she doesn't know thaf. We have barely spoken since sunday other than just the usual hope your having a good day type of stuff it feels awkward. I offered to come to a serious dr appointment with her and she wants me to. Im starting to have my own doubts now that maybe the damage is done and its time to move on. Relationships am i right?
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