Guyouthere Posted October 20, 2015 Posted October 20, 2015 Ok, speaks for itself. Ladies, how do you flirt with a guy? Do tell. Open our eyes.
todreaminblue Posted October 20, 2015 Posted October 20, 2015 guys just ask me out i say yes or no...... we go out.......i dont really flirt...my friendliness is probably mistaken or classed as flirting......because i smile.....make eye contact take interest in them.make them laugh.but i do that with all my friends...i do it with strangers...take interest smile saY HELLO.....guys ask me out... if i feel something i say yes..if i dont i say no.......we go out on a date or we dont...if i feel something for a guy i will tell them before they ask me.....but it feels awkward......so i havent done that often....i normally know them pretty well for me to approach and i normally feel from both sides of the fence..so feelings reciprocated...........deb.. 2
d0nnivain Posted October 20, 2015 Posted October 20, 2015 Smile. Pay rapt attention. Toss my hair. Maybe wink. Light touches. Possibly a few innuendos. 1
Author Guyouthere Posted October 20, 2015 Author Posted October 20, 2015 Smile. Pay rapt attention. Toss my hair. Maybe wink. Light touches. Possibly a few innuendos. Tossing hair is an interesting one,,,, I see woman doing that quite often.
smackie9 Posted October 20, 2015 Posted October 20, 2015 I lock eyes, and follow the stare. They come right to me. Hand on their thy, and lean in so they can smell my perfume.
Author Guyouthere Posted October 20, 2015 Author Posted October 20, 2015 I lock eyes, and follow the stare. They come right to me. Hand on their thy, and lean in so they can smell my perfume. I notice they do that to me at work,,,, but in my case, they come in to smell the sweat.
GemmaUK Posted October 20, 2015 Posted October 20, 2015 Smile. Pay rapt attention. Toss my hair. Maybe wink. Light touches. Possibly a few innuendos. ( Pretty much this except as well as lots of (glad) eye contact (not sure if 'glad eye' is a global thing or just a UK term) I toss my hair or put my fingers through it, play with it quite a lot anyway. Gone are the old days of firm hairstyles and hairspray. Just a decade or two ago we all used to wear hairspray and hair playing kinda ended up strictly reserved as one of the reactions when flirting - preening basically. Playing with hair came out as an indicator of attraction a long old time ago. However, many women no longer even own a can of hairspray or anything similar so hair is there for the playing with as you can without messing it up or getting your fingers caught at any time and talking to anyone..or not. I wouldn't necessarily rely on it as an indicator any more.
seekingluck Posted October 20, 2015 Posted October 20, 2015 Depends: do I know you or did I just meet you? If we just met, then I'll ask a lot of questions, stand closer, touch your arm or shoulder and drops some hints about the things I like to do. I am pretty smiley so you can't read much into that, but I'd assume we'd be smiling a lot if we were enjoying the conversation. If we are acquainted? Not a whole lot unless you do something to make me think I should flirt. But it depends on what our relationship is like. If we are already touchy, well then I can't use that as a signal. But if we aren't then that is a good way to go: incorporate more touch. Hug you hello and goodbye, touch your arm, shoulder/etc and leave my hand there. I'll probably also touch your knee to emphasis a point. This usually works for people I have already been touchy with. And then it might make more sense to change the topics we talk about more, I'll be more interested in your relationships than I may have been in the past.
GemmaUK Posted October 20, 2015 Posted October 20, 2015 Sorry..that first sentence of mine made no sense..tried to edit but I was too late... Quoted and fixed.. ( Pretty much this as well as lots of (glad) eye contact (not sure if 'glad eye' is a global thing or just a UK term) except I toss my hair or put my fingers through it, play with it quite a lot anyway. Gone are the old days of firm hairstyles and hairspray. Just a decade or two ago we all used to wear hairspray and hair playing kinda ended up strictly reserved as one of the reactions when flirting - preening basically. Playing with hair came out as an indicator of attraction a long old time ago. However, many women no longer even own a can of hairspray or anything similar so hair is there for the playing with as you can without messing it up or getting your fingers caught at any time and talking to anyone..or not. I wouldn't necessarily rely on it as an indicator any more.
jam.over.jelly Posted October 20, 2015 Posted October 20, 2015 It's funny now that I sat down and thought about the dates that I went on, I really ONLY flirted with guys I was into, and I did all of this subconsciously, maintaining eye contact, slight touches on his forearm, running my fingers through my hair, my knee touching his knee, etc...With guys I wasn't that interested in, I could see my body language a bit dry and distant, although I still laughed and smiled a lot, I didn't touch them or play with my hair either.
Empyrea Posted October 20, 2015 Posted October 20, 2015 Slightly longer eye contact, playful teasing, smiling-laughing, touching his arm or bumping into him playfully - honestly, it's not rocket science and frankly quite obvious when a girl is flirting. 1
smackie9 Posted October 20, 2015 Posted October 20, 2015 I notice they do that to me at work,,,, but in my case, they come in to smell the sweat. yup....dogs will do that. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted October 20, 2015 Posted October 20, 2015 Slightly longer eye contact, playful teasing, smiling-laughing, touching his arm or bumping into him playfully - honestly, it's not rocket science and frankly quite obvious when a girl is flirting. Ditto. I typically have a very warm and playful demeanor sprinkled with plenty of humor. I can also be quite flirtatious with men I'm comfortable with. Sometimes it causes some misunderstandings but most of the time they get it and give it just as good and the rest is left on the table. In order for a man to decipher between my usual friendly personality and one of serious flirtation, I often have to ramp things up; longer eye contact, increased touching, playful inuendos, leaning closer into him, I often will bat my eyelashes, paying serious attention to the things he says AND the things he doesn't say (not everyone can master this) and (believe it or not), addressing him by his name during conversation. That's courtesy of Networking 101 1
Author Guyouthere Posted October 20, 2015 Author Posted October 20, 2015 yup....dogs will do that. I should carry some treats on me then. hehehe
Rejected Rosebud Posted October 20, 2015 Posted October 20, 2015 Hand on their thy, and lean in so they can smell my perfume. Would that be thigh? Or FLY?? :laugh: I like "FLY" better. Now that there's some flirting!! :bunny:
todreaminblue Posted October 21, 2015 Posted October 21, 2015 Ditto. I typically have a very warm and playful demeanor sprinkled with plenty of humor. I can also be quite flirtatious with men I'm comfortable with. Sometimes it causes some misunderstandings but most of the time they get it and give it just as good and the rest is left on the table. In order for a man to decipher between my usual friendly personality and one of serious flirtation, I often have to ramp things up; longer eye contact, increased touching, playful inuendos, leaning closer into him, I often will bat my eyelashes, paying serious attention to the things he says AND the things he doesn't say (not everyone can master this) and (believe it or not), addressing him by his name during conversation. That's courtesy of Networking 101 oh dear then i have been flirting with everyone i meet...because i say the name of the person a lot ...my grandpa told me it makes the person feel more comfortable and open to address them by name as they feel special and recognized.....important to you......he told me everyone should feel that repoirte that its a distinction....so i have been doing it since i was five....as good manners.......deb.....
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