heather03 Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 My ex and I broke up about a year ago, but we officially stopped talking about 2 months ago. I was the one to break it off, he stayed in contact with me up until 2 months ago because he wanted us to get back together, though he was in China for a semester. When he came back he thought we would immediately get back together because we stayed in close contact, but I wasn't ready to jump right back into it. He said we should just be friends but we dont talk anymore. I think I was upset because I felt rejected, even though I know it's my fault because I didn't want to be serious with him again. But I'm having such a hard time getting over it because he was my best friend for two years. I dont have a lot of close friends, or at least close friends that I saw on a daily basis like I did with him. We did a lot together and hung out all the time, and I'm really really starting to miss that and hanging out with him. I feel like I should still be trying to move on and keeping up with the NC, but at the same time I really want things to go back to how they used to be two months ago and be able to hang out as friends. At the same time, I still have feelings for him as more than a friend. Overall I just really want him back in my life, but I'm not sure if I should reach out to him. He texted me a few weeks prior to us hanging out and asked if we could meet up; and when we did I admitted that I still have feelings for him. He said he'd always have feelings for me but he wasn't sure if we would work out as a couple again. He's always going out now and lives at school so he's always around other people, so I'm sure he's over the relationship. He still tags me in things on Instagram and likes my pictures but hasn't texted me in two weeks. He said it was good that we keep our space but I shouldn't hesitate if I want to text him to talk. I want him back in my life and want us to be friends again but I'm not sure if I should wait until he misses me (since he essentially broke it off the second time) or if I should just try to finally move on and get over him?
MINDSHIFT Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 Your not being clear or i missed something, do you want a relationship with him or do you want to be friends?
Author heather03 Posted October 19, 2015 Author Posted October 19, 2015 Your not being clear or i missed something, do you want a relationship with him or do you want to be friends? Friends I guess...my family really dislikes him and so do my friends (they think I can do better)...so until I get my feelings together I'd just like to be back in each others lives.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 20, 2015 Posted October 20, 2015 I would not advise you to be friends at this point. You admit you still have feelings for him. You will wind up hurt, I can almost guarantee it. Let's say you stay friends and then some night he can't hang out or call, and you come to find out it's because he's got a date. How are you going to feel then? Or if he hooks up with someone and you randomly find out? Believe me when I say that it will hurt like hell. All of us lose that special friendship when we break up with someone. But it's on you to get back out and rekindle old friendships or form new ones. He's no longer going to hold the Best Friend title in your life.
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