adiamond Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 I've been in two long term relationships and it has always ended up with them being like, I love you, you make me so happy, being with you feels so right, you're wonderful and a great girlfriend, but.. GIGS, they don't want to make the leap for committed (not marriage necessarily, but seeing a long term future with me past 2 years) and they move on to another girl. and then I get dumped and end up hurting and like ?!?!?! I'm like in my early 20's, just turned 21 a few months ago. My bf's have always been 1-2 years older than me and not too experienced. I feel like at this point in my life, it might not be a good idea to be getting into relationships as I'm going to be moving in a few months for school and everyone I've been with has gotten GIGS or something?! Either they're not being honest with me and I've been a crappy girlfriend and there hasn't been a good connection between us and they're just trying to let me down easy or something. I feel like I should wait till I'm 24 or something to start dating because then, people are more experienced and looking to find someone for something serious. I don't even know how people end up with their high school sweethearts and not ended up with GIGS lol What's your guys' opinion on dating during your early 20's?
LostOnes05 Posted October 20, 2015 Posted October 20, 2015 I'm in my late 20's now and it's no different than what I saw among my friends in my early 20's. Some of my friends have gotten married, but for those that are single and around my age (speaking from a guy's perspective) dating kinda sucks. Hate to be a debbie downer but that's what I've seen and experienced.
Author adiamond Posted October 20, 2015 Author Posted October 20, 2015 I'm in my late 20's now and it's no different than what I saw among my friends in my early 20's. Some of my friends have gotten married, but for those that are single and around my age (speaking from a guy's perspective) dating kinda sucks. Hate to be a debbie downer but that's what I've seen and experienced. I guess it's not about my age, but my experiences have just been bad...
Riptide91 Posted October 20, 2015 Posted October 20, 2015 (edited) I'm about mid twenties and after being in a long term relationship it was definitely a new experience. I personally don't like anything online to meet people for the first time so it was a little more difficult for me. I actually met my current girlfriend through mutual friends and luckily enough we clicked pretty easily so it only took a few dates before we felt we'd like to be exclusive. I believe in the phrase: don't going looking for love, instead let it find you. Especially if you're young still, just be yourself and go out to places and eventually you'll find someone or they'll find you and it will just work. I'm not saying you won't have mixed up feelings or be hesitant but some people are easier to connect with than others. Also, I wouldn't let your bad experiences jade or construe your feelings about new ones. That's something that happens to me, and it's hard sometimes to not immediately think about what the last girlfriend or boyfriend did to you. Edited October 20, 2015 by Riptide91
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