Why does it seem like getting into relationships is easy for some people?

[E-Squared]

I see it around in every day life. I see that some people start talking and all of a sudden they are dating. How is it that easy? It was never easy for me, because I am never sure if a girl likes me, and when I try talking to someone, they reject me with an excuse like "Oh, it's not a good time right now," or even, "I am not in the mood to date." Yet, they meet someone "better" and start dating that person. I understand that a factor is that the two people hit it off, but sometimes I feel that I have a good conversation with someone, and then she turns me down.

 

Then again, I am at an age where some people have said that the dating pool is limited, and I am only in my late-20s. In some ways I sort of regret not dating sooner, but I also must add that I had a lot of problems when I was younger.

[sambolini]

I see it around in every day life. I see that some people start talking and all of a sudden they are dating. How is it that easy? It was never easy for me, because I am never sure if a girl likes me, and when I try talking to someone, they reject me with an excuse like "Oh, it's not a good time right now," or even, "I am not in the mood to date." Yet, they meet someone "better" and start dating that person. I understand that a factor is that the two people hit it off, but sometimes I feel that I have a good conversation with someone, and then she turns me down.

 

Then again, I am at an age where some people have said that the dating pool is limited, and I am only in my late-20s. In some ways I sort of regret not dating sooner, but I also must add that I had a lot of problems when I was younger.

 

I'm almost 36. I don't have problems dating or meeting people. It's a question of "is it really worth it for me?"

 

I'm not saying you are, but people can smell desperation. At my buddy's wedding, one of his wife's bridesmaids was totally looking for a husband. She was all over me, dropping hints, very openly flirtatious, etc.

 

It was a major turnoff. She reeked of "I need a man!!" I'm not interested in playing the "Here, let me validate your existence" game.

 

Enjoy life. Relationships are only a small part of it.

[oldshirt]

Just like football or baseball or about any other activity, you have to be in the league you want to play in.

 

I hate to place a person in a numerical value but for conceptual simplicity sake if you are a 6 and you are interested in a 7, you are going to have to do some singing and dancing and hoop jumping.

 

But while you are in your 4th set of song and dance, an 8 can walk in and sweep her away right in front of your eyes.

 

Your options are simple, stick to 6s and below or become an 8 yourself.

 

The problem is everyone has their own opinion on what separates a 6 from a 7 and a 7 from an 8 etc etc

 

But yes, good looking, socially skilled people with high social status have a much easier time than this less blessed in those areas.