Wimenknow79 Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 We started talking online since June. We got to be good friends. Talked about meeting a few times but things got in the way. Over the last few weeks we have gotten closer. He commented on my facebook. He liked lots of my pictures. We changed our profile pics for eachother. He told me he liked me. I told him I liked him. He even took my tests on facebook. We were going to meet a week ago his idea but he was having financial issues and begged me not to be mad about meeting him. He even wanted to kick this guys butt for giving me a hard time. He had a family funeral last weekend and one this weekend of family members he wasn't close too. He wanted to meet this weekend. His idea. We were going to spend Saturday and Saturday night together. He only messaged me once this week which was Tuesday. He was still excited about the weekend. He confirmed 3 times about coming. His back was hurting and he missed three days of work though. I noticed Friday 20 of my friends were missing from my facebook. They said they didn't unfriend me. Facebook was glitch inch. Happened to another friend of mine. He was one of them. I messaged him to tell him and talk to him. He ignored three messages. I drunk texted in the we hours of Sunday morning 3 times. He ignored me. I then texted the following day to say I was sorry about the drunk text. I asked what happened and if I did something wrong that I didn't understand. I told him if he wanted nothing to do with me just tell me and I would just go but we had been friends for so long I thought I deserved to know. I texted like 4 or 5 times. I told him that was the last time I was messaging and it is. I told him I miss him and I really liked him and wanted to meet him but I respect his choice. Then I told him I was sorry for the text messages I just cared and good bye. What happened???? I don't understand. I no that no message is a message but this seems like it happened out if no where. It was his idea to meet.
hippychick3 Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 You've never met him and really don't know him. He told you what you wanted to hear, but actions speak louder than words. Regardless of what someone SAYS, if they don't follow through with actions, their words mean absolutely nothing. Please don't message or text someone after they've ignored you. And why would you apologize to him? He was obviously lying to you and not worth your time. Don't apologize in hopes of opening up communication with him. When someone doesn't return a message or text, that is their way of communicating. Their lack of communication should tell you enough. 1
Toodaloo Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 You were way too invested far too fast. Easy to do. Trust me I am sort of going through the same thing at the moment. Difference is that I have actually met the guy a couple of times... I am also refraining from constant contact because I know it is not going to make him suddenly fall for me. You didn't meet this guy. It was all bit of a fantasy. For goodness sake get off of facebook and go and see your friends! I know its all the rage these days but nothing beats having a cuppa, face to face, with your chums. Do not contact this guy again. You will not get a response and you will just embarrass yourself. Trust me I have been in his shoes and its a drag. I do not suddenly think "oh how lovely I think I will speak to them again" I just think "For goodness sake get a life and leave me alone!"... I had to call someone last night to tell them to stop texting me all the time. While he was over joyed to speak to me I really couldn't get him off the phone fast enough. I just wanted him to go away. It was a chore. I would rather have scrubbed the mens toilets at work than make that call... I am just praying he actually listened and leaves me alone. Don't be like him. Have more respect for yourself. 1
fred123 Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 We started talking online since June. We got to be good friends. Talked about meeting a few times but things got in the way. Over the last few weeks we have gotten closer. He commented on my facebook. He liked lots of my pictures. We changed our profile pics for eachother. He told me he liked me. I told him I liked him. He even took my tests on facebook. We were going to meet a week ago his idea but he was having financial issues and begged me not to be mad about meeting him. He even wanted to kick this guys butt for giving me a hard time. He had a family funeral last weekend and one this weekend of family members he wasn't close too. He wanted to meet this weekend. His idea. We were going to spend Saturday and Saturday night together. He only messaged me once this week which was Tuesday. He was still excited about the weekend. He confirmed 3 times about coming. His back was hurting and he missed three days of work though. I noticed Friday 20 of my friends were missing from my facebook. They said they didn't unfriend me. Facebook was glitch inch. Happened to another friend of mine. He was one of them. I messaged him to tell him and talk to him. He ignored three messages. I drunk texted in the we hours of Sunday morning 3 times. He ignored me. I then texted the following day to say I was sorry about the drunk text. I asked what happened and if I did something wrong that I didn't understand. I told him if he wanted nothing to do with me just tell me and I would just go but we had been friends for so long I thought I deserved to know. I texted like 4 or 5 times. I told him that was the last time I was messaging and it is. I told him I miss him and I really liked him and wanted to meet him but I respect his choice. Then I told him I was sorry for the text messages I just cared and good bye. What happened???? I don't understand. I no that no message is a message but this seems like it happened out if no where. It was his idea to meet. i thought you said you guys were just friends?
Author Wimenknow79 Posted October 19, 2015 Author Posted October 19, 2015 We met on a dating site. We started talking on there and we have become good friends. The last few weeks we have gotten closer and admitted we liked eachother. It sucks because we had some good conversations. We were facebook friends. We exchanged numbers and started texting. It still baffles me. I'm not texting him anymore. The last one was yesterday when I told him I would respect his choice and bye. I know I didn't meet him in person. I guess I'm just confused and baffled by the sudden change. But if they won't say what happened there is nothing I guess to understand.
Toodaloo Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 We met on a dating site. We started talking on there and we have become good friends. The last few weeks we have gotten closer and admitted we liked eachother. It sucks because we had some good conversations. We were facebook friends. We exchanged numbers and started texting. It still baffles me. I'm not texting him anymore. The last one was yesterday when I told him I would respect his choice and bye. I know I didn't meet him in person. I guess I'm just confused and baffled by the sudden change. But if they won't say what happened there is nothing I guess to understand. There are people on dating sites who just like the attention and don't actually want to meet. I suspect he is probably one of them. Don't worry about it but learn from it. Rules for On Line Dating that I follow are; 1. If they don't ask you out on a date fast then they are not interested. Move on 2. Always meet in public places for first few meets 3. Be wary of developing feelings and emotions too fast even after you meet (I have had guys go poof after a couple of dates) 4. If they stop talking to you do not bother to try and engage in conversation again 5. Do not add any of them to facebook etc 6. Keep yourself as busy as possible with friends and family and talk to them about it - don't hide it! 7. Take regular breaks when you start feeling down. 2
Author Wimenknow79 Posted October 19, 2015 Author Posted October 19, 2015 Thanks guys for the advice. I will do that:)
Toodaloo Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 Some types of men to be wary of that will waste your time. Flakes These promise you the earth but don't actually show up, confirm anything or they cancel at the last minute Wishful Thinkers These are the ones that forget you are a human being and make you out to be some amazing mythical beast that has no reality to who you actually are Pen Pals These ones are like your guy and will develop emotions over messages etc but have no intention of ever meeting Crazies These ones come across as very sweet nice people but are actually completely bonkers. Careful with these ones as when they blow, they blow. They will tend to try and speed everything up. Women Bashers These ones tend to show themselves quite fast. They are normally either fresh out of a relationship or just plain bitter about their ex. They have no interest in you as a person they just want revenge on women kind. They will "neg" (say something nice but then put you down i.e. I like your hair shame its no longer), and dig at you. Run from these as they are vile and feel entitled. Just remember that in amongst all of this are some really fabulous guys. Guys that are well worth meeting and spending time to get to know. Good luck and keep posting. I am sure everyone will help you through the quagmire. 1
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