J21 Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 My ex and i broke up a little over 3 weeks ago. She drunk texted me this past friday asking how i am blah blah blah. I kept it pretty curt, something like: im alright, u? She said she was drinking with her friends and wanted to text me. The she said would like to "talk on the phone sometime if i dont mind". While i was thinking of what to reply to her request for a call she sent another message saying "i dont mean much.. just wanted to check if u are fine". I responded to the latest msg and said "yeah i am, no worries" and never directly responded to her question about having a call. We broke up mutually because of long distance. It was a good relationship but it wasnt a long one (4 month). The break up was very clean and on good terms. i was making steady progress to get back out there again, but now im scratching my head and wondering what she wants to say? Any thoughts on what she wants to talk about? Should i even get back to her about the call she wanted?
Penguins Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 Have the reasons for the breakup changed? Have circumstances changed? If not, does it really matter what she wants to say? It might be best to let her contact you again when she is not drunk, in case that text was not in her right mind. Glad you are moving through it, and moving on! 1
Goodbye Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 She was drunk and nostalgic. Read nothing more into it. Alcohol, break ups and technology NEVER go together well.
mightycpa Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 I remember what happened the last time my ex called me after we broke upUmmm' date=' listen, I can't really talk right now. You understand, right? Anyway, gotta go.[/quote']
Author J21 Posted October 19, 2015 Author Posted October 19, 2015 Have the reasons for the breakup changed? Have circumstances changed? If not, does it really matter what she wants to say? It might be best to let her contact you again when she is not drunk, in case that text was not in her right mind. Glad you are moving through it, and moving on! Thanks man, I think that is a good idea to see if she contacts me when she was not drunk. Alcohol does impair judgement. And to answer your question, nothing changed for the reasons. We are still far away and can't spend as much as we both like to. She was drunk and nostalgic. Read nothing more into it. Alcohol, break ups and technology NEVER go together well. Well said, thanks for giving it to me straight. I remember what happened the last time my ex called me after we broke up She said that to you when she is the one that called? Why would she have called? that doesn't even make sense in the context of a conversation.
BonerFide Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 I'm with Penguins, unless the circumstances have changed there's no reason to hear her out. You're hearing this from someone who gets nostalgic a lot, especially when drunk; I tried to call my ex when tipsy and emotional, even though I didn't want or expect reconciliation, I just wanted to hear his voice and that's what is sounds like. Luckily I ended the call when I came to my senses, though I suspect he wouldn't have picked up anyway. Don't give her that comfort dude, it's better for both of you to stay NC. 1
Author J21 Posted October 19, 2015 Author Posted October 19, 2015 I'm with Penguins, unless the circumstances have changed there's no reason to hear her out. You're hearing this from someone who gets nostalgic a lot, especially when drunk; I tried to call my ex when tipsy and emotional, even though I didn't want or expect reconciliation, I just wanted to hear his voice and that's what is sounds like. Luckily I ended the call when I came to my senses, though I suspect he wouldn't have picked up anyway. Don't give her that comfort dude, it's better for both of you to stay NC. Thanks for your thoughts, I'll keep NC and go along as usual. I do miss her too in all honesty, but the distance thing doesn't really work out :T If she contacted me and I responded, does that count as breaking NC? I guess technically so, but I didn't wanna ignore her. We'll see if she reaches out again.
mightycpa Posted October 20, 2015 Posted October 20, 2015 Ummm, listen, I can't really talk right now. You understand, right? Anyway, gotta go. She said that to you when she is the one that called? Why would she have called? that doesn't even make sense in the context of a conversation. Ummmmmmmm....No. I said that to her. Even when I replied, I didn't reply. 1
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