heather03 Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 My ex and I broke up about a year ago, but we officially stopped talking about 2 months ago. I was the one to break it off, he stayed in contact with me up until 2 months ago because he wanted us to get back together, though he was in China for a semester. When he came back he thought we would immediately get back together because we stayed in close contact, but I wasn't ready to jump right back into it. He said we should just be friends but we dont talk anymore. I think I was upset because I felt rejected, even though I know it's my fault because I didn't want to be serious with him again. But I'm having such a hard time getting over it because he was my best friend for two years. I dont have a lot of close friends, or at least close friends that I saw on a daily basis like I did with him. We did a lot together and hung out all the time, and I'm really really starting to miss that and hanging out with him. I feel like I should still be trying to move on and keeping up with the NC, but at the same time I really want things to go back to how they used to be two months ago and be able to hang out as friends. Or does this still take time? I still have feelings for him, and he said he'll always have feelings for me as well, but he doesn't think we would work out as a couple and deep down I dont think we would either.
Sunlight72 Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 Ouch. I'm in a similar place now, after a 4 year relationship. It's very confusing. At this point I can only say spending time with friends seems like the best path. I'm dating already because I felt topsy-turvy, confused and up-and-down and just didn't want to live in the whirlpool. I don't recommend it. Dating is nice in a way, but is adding a layer of confusion of it's own. Just FYI.
DirtyBerty Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 Keeping busy, time, seeing friends and reconnecting with old friends, going to the gym, watching comedy, counselling, taking up old and new hobbies, quitting drinking. That's all the things that helped me after a 7 year relationship. I was at absolute rock bottom for 2 weeks. Nothing helped then, but gradually things got better and although I'm still no over her 8 weeks on, I'm now a better person and I'm far from rock bottom now Honestly you'll be ok and you'll start to feel good sooner than you think. Good luck
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