woggy Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 I'm 18 and my Ex is 17 My ex and I dated for around 10 months, I'm a senior and she a junior. For the first 6 months of our relationship everything was relatively perfect. Then she started changing, she would hang out with random people, started caring less about things and caring less about how I feel. I get that change is normal especially at a young age so I didn't want to judge, but eventually she ended things, citing she loved me but didn't want to be in a relationship, doesn't know what she wants etc. It hurt but nothing I could really do about it. My ex smoked pot during the course of our relationship, increasingly as the months went on. I on the other hand never did. But she never did more than pot. So we broke up a month ago and I personally have stuck to no contact. She would call me maybe two or three times a week to talk, I realize I shouldn't have accepted but hell I missed her. I would never initiate contact. So today she calls me, I can tell she's down, I kinda probe around and ask. She just tells me that she's not enjoying who she is etc. Eventually she told me that the night before she tried Ketamine that she bought and passed out at a friends house. The friend being two 19 year old guys. For some reason it made me furious that she would do something like that, I wanted yell at her but realized that's not my place. I don't know why it angered me so much. She told me she realized it was dumb, that she was going to take a break from everything and focus on herself. I thought that was a really good idea and told her that. We talked for another hour and hung up. It was the most we talked since breaking up. She told me she apprenticed being able to talk to me and for me to be there. I just feel like I'm enabling the idea of I'm always going to be there for her, no matter what. I don't know what to do, I realize that I'm probably just being used as an emotional crutch but I don't want to just abandon this person I care about when all this **** is happening to her. I know its unfair to me, I just need advice. TL;DR - Ex girlfriend of one year has started using drugs and I feel obligated to be there for her.
BrokenManAgain Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 You're in over your head. Find help for her and then get the hell out of the way.
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