wow Posted May 22, 2005 Posted May 22, 2005 My girl broke up with me a month and a half ago we were out for 4 years. Over the fact that she wants freedom and loves me like a brother not a boy friend. I had no contact for a month with her and then we started talking and having sex. I never initiated the contact and always acted to busy for her but i did see her. I miss her so much now and have not spoken to her in 3 days (wow). I want to call her and hang out? I do no know what i am doing posting this when I know the anwser. The fact is I still love no matter how **** she was to me. I have always been weak for her and in her eyes i am all tough and could not care about the break up. She thinks i have met someone new because her friends saw me with a friend of mine. Must i be honest with my feeling and tell her how i feel or maintain NC and remain in pain until these feelings pass?
XNemesisX Posted May 22, 2005 Posted May 22, 2005 I think you should tell her. I really believe that NC can actually stop a lot of relationships from improving. It can prove to be detrimental advice. Give it one more shot, when you have done all you can do and said all you can say to get her back and it doesn't work...THEN go to NC. I am not a big advocator of NC....
Merin Posted May 22, 2005 Posted May 22, 2005 IF the 2 of you are still having sex and hangin out then you're really not in No Contact (LOL I Even hate saying those words together!) sounds like you've got a FWB deal going on.. and because you're really wanting more from her this isn't a good place for you to be. I agree with XNX that perhaps getting it all out there and letting her know you miss her and would like another opportunity to work things out might be a good idea... at least you could say you did what you could, you said what you needed to and then if it still doesn't work out you walk away knowing you tried. Good Luck
eastern_mystique Posted May 22, 2005 Posted May 22, 2005 Originally posted by wow she wants freedom and loves me like a brother not a boy friend. I had no contact for a month with her and then we started talking and having sex. Doesn't that strike you as odd? That she says she loves you like a brother but will still have sex with you? Makes you wonder what kind of relationship she has with her brother..... You may as well tell her how you feel, so you can have the satisfaction of knowing you at least tried. Good luck.
Author wow Posted May 22, 2005 Author Posted May 22, 2005 well told her how i felt about her and the future of our relationship. She cried and told me she loves me. She says that she cant go out with me because she feels restricted being with me and cant live her life with me. She sees a future for us at a later stage. So there! Then she invites me for a movie and to chill with her. Hell no! I might continue the Friends with benefits concept for awhile but i think i am to emotional to continue it for too long.
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