wlh22 Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 I think I understand why I have been going over and over the entire story of my ex with me (posted separately). I am angry not just because she left me without explanation (she just chose to take the coward way out of not returning my calls and blocking me on fb, instead of breaking up in a decent manner. Her explanation when i called in a few days was "what could i have said. I was the one to ask us to get back together") I think the core issue is I just feel hurt. This is the second time I feel in love and both relationships ended similarly. Girl walking out. No cheating or abuse or any crap like that from my side. The first time was my first love and a long relationship where the girl walked out saying "I am not happy". It took me a while to recover. This time it was "I just didn't feel it" and that too after her coming back promising to be with me for life and marrying me. I think this time my heart isn't just able to ACCEPT IT. I mean once is enough already. Twice is feeling too much pain. Of course, leaving aside the fact that she came back to pull me in and did all the effort and cracked me without any warnings. That was crap of her to do. But I am just afraid my heart is really broken (I physically feel pain in my chest when I get up in the mornings). and I really don't know if i can ever heal fully and feel normal and happy and open to people. Any suggestions?
d0nnivain Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 You will heal. It just takes time. Metaphorically at least a broken heart is just like a broken arm. If you had a broken arm you would put it in a cast for 6 to 8 weeks to protect it & let the bones knit back together. You would baby that arm & not go around slamming it on a table or cutting the cast off so you could see if it bends. You would follow doctor's orders. Once out of the cast you might have a sling or do physical therapy to further strengthen it. A broken heart also needs TLC & self care to heal. It needs time.
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