Sara109 Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 I think I made a huge mistake when I asked for my friend and I to become official. He agreed to becoming an official couple. We have been dating for 2 months now but I feel like he isn't putting effort into the relationship. I think this is because I chased him and didn't give him the chance to ask me when he was ready. I feel like I pressured him into out relationship. We were seeing each other for two years, I just felt like he was taking too long. I regret what I did by taking away his chance to ask me. We are both in our mid 20's. I don't know if I ruined it. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated. Thanks Sara
Toddbt12y1 Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 You can always talk to him about this. Perhaps after a nice chat, mature and respectful chat - that you may know as to why he is not putting forth an effort. Maybe it is as you believe. May be he is under some stress, he has yet to talk to you about. In the end, itis only two months. Perhaps you may can end this peaceably and maintain a friendship, that may can develop into something stronger down the line. Anything is possible. I'd talk to him - how you work in relationships. Get his feelings on why - and respect those feelings. As he should you. But you will never know as to why he has not put in much effort without asking him; all else is mere speculation.
Gaeta Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 I would like more details. Were you friends with benefits? or platonic friends? What has changed since you are an official couple that you're not happy?
preraph Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 Stop blaming yourself. Two years was long enough. The sad fact is that he isn't who you want to continue dating. He isn't who you hoped he'd be. He wasn't proactive enough to make the moves himself and that's who he is. Call it off. It wasn't time wasted. You could still be on idle like you were before and still wondering. Now you know. He's not it.
mightycpa Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 You should be seeing a lot of guys in your mid-20's, not be waiting around for two years for a guy to ask you to be his girlfriend. If they won't do it on their own, they are either not interested enough, or not man enough for a real relationship.
BLND Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 seeing each other for 2 years as what? at what frequency? that you are still not official after 2 years???
basil67 Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 If a guy really likes you, he's not that easy to put off. Perhaps he wasn't as into you as you thought - in which case, you've done yourself a favour.
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