Thechosenone23 Posted October 18, 2015 Share Posted October 18, 2015 Now I personally think she's just trying to get it off of her chest but I would like to know other people's perspective. Our relationship ended bad we were both in love but on and off for the last few months of a two year relationship. She ended it and ignored me for the longest time I begged pleaded and cried and she wouldn't take me back. Went into nc with her and 4 weeks later today she texted me wishing me a happy belated birthday and she told me you may not think so but not a day goes by and I don't think of you. Take care. I replied after a while with thank you. Then she texted me saying how sorry she is for how bad and hurtful things ended and it was the only option she could do to let go off me. And how she doesn't regret it because she feels more at peace and she's letting go of all the bad thoughts she had of me towards the end of the relationship. She said we can reflect and think clearly of what happened with us because of this space. She said I hope you don't hate me for what I did and her love for me is the same and she wants me to be happy even if it can't be with her anymore. Then I said I honestly think this space was the best thing to do in our situation and I don't hate you and I wish you nothing but the best. Goodnight. Any thoughts on why she texted me? Link to post Share on other sites
dumbass2 Posted October 18, 2015 Share Posted October 18, 2015 She felt guilty how she treated you and you relieved her of the guilt. That's all. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
singme2sleep Posted October 18, 2015 Share Posted October 18, 2015 My ex doesn't even care enough to feel guilt. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Thechosenone23 Posted October 18, 2015 Author Share Posted October 18, 2015 She felt guilty how she treated you and you relieved her of the guilt. That's all. Why would she even mention that not a day goes by and she doesn't think of me and that her love for me is the same? Link to post Share on other sites
singme2sleep Posted October 18, 2015 Share Posted October 18, 2015 Why would she even mention that not a day goes by and she doesn't think of me and that her love for me is the same? But why say that if she broke up with you?! Link to post Share on other sites
quattrob Posted October 18, 2015 Share Posted October 18, 2015 Why would she even mention that not a day goes by and she doesn't think of me and that her love for me is the same? I know what you're thinking, you think that just because she said that it means maybe she wants to come back or reconcile later. She's saying that just to make it sound nice so that you'll respond to her because she feels bad for what she did. Never ever just listen to what comes out other people's mouth. Look at their actions. Go back to NC and forget about her. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
LoveIsMyReligion Posted October 18, 2015 Share Posted October 18, 2015 Actions > Words 3 Link to post Share on other sites
louxor Posted October 18, 2015 Share Posted October 18, 2015 My ex told me that I had been the "perfect boyfriend" and that I had "done nothing wrong", yet there she was, breaking up with me. Like the others have said, focus on their actions not their words. Many people will say they miss you, or they can't stop thinking about you, but they do nothing to bring you back into their lives Talk is cheap. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Hell Yeah Posted October 18, 2015 Share Posted October 18, 2015 unless the ex is banging at your door pleading for a reconcile, begging your forgiveness and ripping your clothes off...........its just cheap meaningless virtual empty words and its just all bullsh*t They want their ego stroked.........instead you should give them the silent finger 5 Link to post Share on other sites
SoThatHappened Posted October 18, 2015 Share Posted October 18, 2015 My ex sent a message either trying to assuage her guilt or trying to keep me as a backup plan, 3 months after she cheated on me. As mentioned, actions are much greater than words. Your ex was likely trying to relieve guilt while still keeping you in the wings. The best thing you could have done was not reply. She broke up with you. Let her have what she wanted, even if it was only what she wanted at the time and even if she might be regretting it now. You're not Plan B. Block every single form of communication. It really will help. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NoMoreJerks Posted October 18, 2015 Share Posted October 18, 2015 Like the others said, it's just to assuage her guilt, and perhaps also for the ego trip. I mean, my ex who begged me for a second chance after he dumped me, treated me like dirt , and it turns out he came back only to treat me like **** because I hadn't begged for him back and it hurt his ego... so imagine if someone who begged for a second chance did that, how interested in you is someone who didn't even beg for a second chance, and is just throwing you some breadcrumbs, for her own benefit? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Thechosenone23 Posted October 19, 2015 Author Share Posted October 19, 2015 I know what you're thinking, you think that just because she said that it means maybe she wants to come back or reconcile later. She's saying that just to make it sound nice so that you'll respond to her because she feels bad for what she did. Never ever just listen to what comes out other people's mouth. Look at their actions. Go back to NC and forget about her. The reason I'm saying that is cuz when we broke up and when once we talked she was telling me I'm not saying that we are over for good but we need this space that's why I'm wondering if she's hinting into working on the relationship again Link to post Share on other sites
Protec Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 My ex doesn't even care enough to feel guilt. Mine either.She just said "Oh! Man up!" when i tried to get closure from her. I never know if there was something i did wrong. OH, still i blame me. Link to post Share on other sites
louxor Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 (edited) The reason I'm saying that is cuz when we broke up and when once we talked she was telling me I'm not saying that we are over for good but we need this space that's why I'm wondering if she's hinting into working on the relationship again Again, she may have just been saying that to soften the blow in hopes that if she just leaves it at that you will eventually get over her and she won't have to deal with confronting you face on about the relationship truly being over. look at her actions, not her words. If she wants to try again, she will act upon it, words themselves don't really mean much. Edited October 19, 2015 by louxor Link to post Share on other sites
fancy feast Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 The reason I'm saying that is cuz when we broke up and when once we talked she was telling me I'm not saying that we are over for good but we need this space that's why I'm wondering if she's hinting into working on the relationship again You deserve better than hints, brother. If that's what she wants, she can say it clearly. Trying to decipher some text messages is just too much of a mentally taxing exercise. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mightycpa Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 she texted me wishing me a happy belated birthday and she told me you may not think so but not a day goes by and I don't think of you. :bunny: Not a day goes by and I don't think of you either! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Thechosenone23 Posted October 20, 2015 Author Share Posted October 20, 2015 :bunny: Sorry I don't get what you are trying to say Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted October 21, 2015 Share Posted October 21, 2015 The reason I'm saying that is cuz when we broke up and when once we talked she was telling me I'm not saying that we are over for good but we need this space that's why I'm wondering if she's hinting into working on the relationship again No. Not at all. She just feels guilty and she wants you to absolve her of that guilt so she can continue on the new life she wanted to have without you. She even said that the breakup was a good thing. Don't overthink this. Link to post Share on other sites
mightycpa Posted October 21, 2015 Share Posted October 21, 2015 My ex told me that I had been the "perfect boyfriend" and that I had "done nothing wrong", yet there she was, breaking up with me. Like the others have said, focus on their actions not their words. Many people will say they miss you, or they can't stop thinking about you, but they do nothing to bring you back into their lives Talk is cheap.I had a girlfriend who actually was the perfect girlfriend (best girlfriend ever), and she didn't do anything wrong to make me dump her. I just didn't love her, that's all. The simple explanation was that I became interested in somebody else, and I was willing to part with what I had in order to pursue the new girl. It wasn't like I was giving up something I loved. It was that I was giving up something I liked in exchange for the potential of love. The tradeoff was worth every one of her tears. This is unfathomable when you're being dumped, but so very simple when you're the one doing the dumping. Link to post Share on other sites
louxor Posted October 21, 2015 Share Posted October 21, 2015 I had a girlfriend who actually was the perfect girlfriend (best girlfriend ever), and she didn't do anything wrong to make me dump her. I just didn't love her, that's all. The simple explanation was that I became interested in somebody else, and I was willing to part with what I had in order to pursue the new girl. It wasn't like I was giving up something I loved. It was that I was giving up something I liked in exchange for the potential of love. The tradeoff was worth every one of her tears. This is unfathomable when you're being dumped, but so very simple when you're the one doing the dumping. As much as I understand where you're coming from, and this is probably the same case for my ex, I still personally don't believe that anyone would ever let someone go for a chance with another if the person they were letting go was indeed 'perfect'. This is because if you already have someone that is perfect, why would you drop that for another? Given that nothing can beat perfection, you'd only be setting yourself up for failure, right? And if not, then the person you left must not have not perfect after all. So as possible as it was that I actually didn't do anything directly wrong to cause her to leave me, fact of the matter is that there was something somewhere that caused her to feel she'd be better off without me. If I was actually the "perfect boyfriend" for her, she never would have felt this way to begin with because she would have been so wound up and hooked on my so-called perfection. I knew right away when she said it that it wasn't the whole truth. I know I wasn't the perfect boyfriend because there is no such thing. Luckily for me I understood that just because she said that, it didn't mean that I should continue to peruse her and try to get her to come back. For some people however if their ex were to say something like this it would leave them extremely confused. Hence why I follow actions not words: She's leaves me yet calls me perfect - That makes 0 sense and at the end of the day her actions showed me all I needed to see. Link to post Share on other sites
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