Radpivo Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 There is a girl I've tried to get together multiple times with who I knew through work until she changed jobs. Anyway, after she left we exchanged multiple texts, and she even said once she "missed our conversations and we should get together soon". In any event over the course of several months I tried to set up a date but always there was an excuse. Met her at a colleague's funeral and we talked to each other almost exclusively, and a colleague even said that she wouldn't have spent so much time with me if she didn't like me. I took a long shot an called her up again to get together, but she never returned my call. I wrote her off basically then, figuring she was not into me. It was a month and a 1/2 and she texts me to check if I was going to the same business function that she was attending last week. I said yes, and she said she'd be glad to see me there. At the last minute I couldn't make it. The next day I was in her area at the end of the business day and texted her explaining my absence. She replied that she was going to call/text me to see what happened, and that she would have loved to have dinner with me since I was in her area but had plans. I didn't respond again - I was happy to leave it at that but then she texts me this morning at 9am saying "Good morning!" Shares a link to an article as she thought I'd be interested in it, and leaves it at "Have a great Sunday!". I figure not to respond unless she texts me again . . . as she is probably just being friendly, or sort of wants a response from me as she subconciously wants her ego stroked or something . . . sound about right?
BonerFide Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 In any event over the course of several months I tried to set up a date but always there was an excuse. This is the biggest issue in the whole scenario. From her talking to you a lot whenever you meet up I would say she's probably a little interested or finds you interesting at least, but if she was actually into you, why would she make this many excuses? It sounds like this happened at least three time as you said 'always'. I would say just leave it, and if she actually cares, she'll get back to you with a date and time. Until then, I wouldn't try and initiate any more dates. 1
Stage5Clinger Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 Excuses are just that; excuses. If she wanted to she would make time.
Versacehottie Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 Yeah I agree. She's "somewhat" interested in you. But either doesn't find you compelling enough to go through with anything; likes the ego stroke; or is in/out of something with someone else who doesn't treat her that well so she keeps probing with you/keeping you at arms length as a backup. Let her be entirely clear and pursue you from now on. You can respond and be polite, cordial and fun but treat her like a friend. That will probably squeeze the "answer" out of her quick enough. But if it's because of another guy that she is back and forth with, not so much. I have a feeling it's winding down or on an off period now that's why her interest is increasing. Date others. Because of her wish-washy-ness she really needs to prove that she's into you and ready to date IF it gets to that. Good luck.
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