streetwise Posted May 22, 2005 Posted May 22, 2005 First time poster. Thanks for any responses/advice. My gf and I have been together 9 months. We are both passionate, independent, and don't "need" each other. But we have said some things since we have been together that seem to suggest we are closer than we have been before. (we are in our late 20s). Recently she is in a mood. She talks about needing more time between bfs and perhaps we got together too soon after her last breakup (three months). Thing is, as much as I was into her, she was into me. She told me she loved me way too soon (I wasn;t in love yet), and I couldn't say it back. Mistake, I later found, she was seriously offended. But what could I have done? Lied? Anyway, that was around month 4-5. Now things have been better but she has recently suggested we only got together because she was needed a rebound, etc. I listen to her and she'll rant about things. She frequently expresses doubt about us and I just let her talk. But when it is my turn I tell her how I feel in no uncertain terms. I'll love her forever if she stays with me; I don;t need to fund someone else. Only her. but if she up and leaves, I will move on. Have to. And I am finding the mroe she understands that, the less she complains. Funny, I just solved my own issue - I was giving her another impression recently that I was needy and it offended her independence. Things need to be balanced in a relationship, and I must keep my own head and not give too much to her. So she is in London now and will be back to Chicago on Sunday. I am going to wait to hear from her and play it nonchalant. Maybe now I am hoping more for a similar story from anybody on this board. Anyway, that's all. Thanks for reading.
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