luck1978 Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 I am about three weeks into NC and it is really ocurring to me that the biggest struggle is your emotions vs pure logic. The former is a powerful force. The emotional connection makes you want to see them so much and tell them everything about how you feel and how depressed you are without them and that everything can be good again. But the logic is this: You are feeling a terrible sense of loss and pain, why? Because this person has decided to end things with you - therefore this person has caused this pain. So NC is a way of protecting yourself from more pain from the very source your emotions crave. Beginning the healing process is realising this, the worst person to see or talk to is in fact the person your emotions are yearning for. This is totally bitter sweet but also makes you realise how much you must try not let your emotions over rule your NC which is the correct course for your own wellbeing. 3
stemac Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 Emotions are killing me today nearly everyday am on a mad roller coaster 1 min am crying like a baby and I find that hard to deal with, The next min am positive, it's like I going mad, the urge to contact her so bloody overwelming, I know nc is 100% best thing I could do, but logic doesn't make sense to me at the moment
truthtripper Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 I am about three weeks into NC and it is really ocurring to me that the biggest struggle is your emotions vs pure logic. The former is a powerful force. The emotional connection makes you want to see them so much and tell them everything about how you feel and how depressed you are without them and that everything can be good again. But the logic is this: You are feeling a terrible sense of loss and pain, why? Because this person has decided to end things with you - therefore this person has caused this pain. So NC is a way of protecting yourself from more pain from the very source your emotions crave. Beginning the healing process is realising this, the worst person to see or talk to is in fact the person your emotions are yearning for. This is totally bitter sweet but also makes you realise how much you must try not let your emotions over rule your NC which is the correct course for your own wellbeing. Well put luck1978. As time passes, the contents of your logic and emotional mind will begin to merge and you will eventually find closure and peace.
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