RoseWater Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 I got this from an OLD match "I was obviously drawn to your stunning looks at first. Then reading through your profile, I realise there's a lot more to you than beauty. I like an intelligent woman. Someone I could share my passions with. You also have passion for things I've never had the time to explore and thought a chance with you gives the perfect opportunity to those things. Plus at your age I'm pretty sure you're ready to settle down if you meet the right person." I'm not too sure about this message....
Yookie Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 Nothing to weird. Just sounds like he's trying to make an impression that he is not shallow. 1
GemmaUK Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 It looks copied and pasted to me but if you like the profile send a reply. 1
Maggie4 Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 The same same message can be sent to every woman. Copy and paste. What things are "those things"? If the message was a personal one, he'd have named the things. 4
Author RoseWater Posted October 18, 2015 Author Posted October 18, 2015 The same same message can be sent to every woman. Copy and paste. What things are "those things"? If the message was a personal one, he'd have named the things. This is probably true
Methodical Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 (edited) He did a great job carefully wording his interest, right up until the comment about your age and being ready to settle down. Wow! Quite an assumption. I don't understand why ppl read too much into things and form ill conceived conclusions. That is off-putting! Why bring up your age? Edited October 18, 2015 by Methodical 4
Author RoseWater Posted October 18, 2015 Author Posted October 18, 2015 He did a great job carefully wording his interest, right up until the comment about your age and being ready to settle down. Wow! Quite an assumption. I don't understand why ppl read too much into things and form ill conceived conclusions. That is off-putting! Why bring up your age? That's the bit I had a problem with, too.
Methodical Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 That's the bit I had a problem with, too. Yeah, the preceding comment was probably a copy and paste. THAT comment was HIS personalization and not a good one.
Lansing Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 Ha, yeah, I agree with others. Nice enough message but seemed like a copy and paste... The last line.. almost like he was trying a line from the "player's handbook". A "neg" about your age... Seemed weird. If you like him enough from the profile maybe give him a chance. It is hard for a guy to even get responses so maybe he is trying some canned lines just in hope someone will give him a chance. 1
Revan32 Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 Started good, but wtf is up with that last part? Its like rule 1 to not call a women old. Serious dumb ass. As to the women on here saying its copied and pasted. Of course it is. But guys have to send out hundreds of messages before we find a girl who responds/wants to meet up/doesn't flake. So can you blame us for not spending 5 minutes per message trying to think up something original and specific to you when the vast majority of time you're not going to respond? Oddly enough, i've found that a simple "hey, how are you?" has a better return rate than even personalized messages. Maybe it just seems like it because I can message 20 girls in 5 minutes, than 2 if I try and personalize it. But my personalized messages almost never get responded to. So i've cut them out completely. 1
Disconnect Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 Don't much like that message, gives me some kind of insincere / creep vibes. 1
GemmaUK Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 Looks like I managed to miss the age and assumption bit there... That would put me right off. Negging happens a lot with OLD. 2
Versacehottie Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 I got this from an OLD match "I was obviously drawn to your stunning looks at first. Then reading through your profile, I realise there's a lot more to you than beauty. I like an intelligent woman. Someone I could share my passions with. You also have passion for things I've never had the time to explore and thought a chance with you gives the perfect opportunity to those things. Plus at your age I'm pretty sure you're ready to settle down if you meet the right person." I'm not too sure about this message.... He sounds socially inept with this comment and like in a way he thinks he will be doing you some favor. Quite an assumption. Maybe he just put his foot in his mouth. On the other part, very subtle signs that he's a little off. I wouldn't be impressed. That said, there's no harm in communicating a bit further with him to confirm things one way or another, if you otherwise found him attractive. He sounds problematic if you read between the lines but if you don't want to be so quick to judge, you can find out more about him and see more of what his real deal is. Good luck 1
Methodical Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 slimy, i wouldn't reply to that. ^^^^^agree^^^^^
introverted1 Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 It looks copied and pasted to me but if you like the profile send a reply. The same same message can be sent to every woman. Copy and paste. What things are "those things"? If the message was a personal one, he'd have named the things. I agree with these. The message is one I see a lot in various forms: it's completely generic and could be sent to any woman, but it's intended to give the impression that the sender actually read the profile and found it of interest. The last line (about being ready to settle down) sounds presumptuous and patronizing.
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