Guyouthere Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 Well, things are starting to happen, and I'm not even trying. Just today, a coworker who has been talking to me a lot finally threw her phone number at me. lol She is around my age…. somewhat pretty, and nice, although not sure if she would be my type. Like I said many times here, I need a highly active woman (why I chose the younger ones in the past). She is active says she walks the beach for 3 hours at times,,, a good sign, and of course I am heavily involved with the ocean and treasure hunting (and fishing). Not sure if she could keep up with that,,,, not that I would force her to. That in itself is inherently dangerous, especially how I do it, so not sure if I want to even expose anyone else to it. She is a lot like me in that she doesn't have family ties, other than her 2 grown daughters, and also gave hints she would start a new life elsewhere (same as I would with the right woman). So I have her number, I see her at work all the time anyway. Not in a rush to call. I am not desperate for anyone really. Also today, had a younger pretty girl come in as a customer,,, I got to talking to her and she brought up the fact she had a boyfriend, but I cracked some jokes and make her smile a lot, she liked it, once again like the others I mentioned before, she came back a second time around after leaving. I would have asked her out had she not said she had a boyfriend. So I know I "have it", just waiting for the right one to finally snatch me. Right now the coworker is really after me though. They all know my story at work (about the previous girl), so now see me as available.
Rejected Rosebud Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 I guess this is a nice ego boost for you but obviously you are not "that into" her.
Author Guyouthere Posted October 18, 2015 Author Posted October 18, 2015 (edited) It was just a good day. I know I am confident and know what I want, and also know I am quality for a good woman. I just want to choose wisely now…. after all I went through,,, I believe I have that obligation to myself now. Im the kind of guy who obviously loves women lot, just had the unfortunate experiences of having bad ones in the past. Chances are I will ask the coworker out soon, at least for company… maybe a good long walk on the beach too as we are both up to that kind of exercise. I also don't want to use anyone,,,, so just being friends is a good thing too. Sex,… I am a very passionate guy, but only if I have real feelings for the woman. I won't even try sex with a woman unless I feel she is long term potential and also comfortable with it. Being available now…. and considering I work in a very busy place and exposed to a lot of people, and my position also gives me the chance to speak to many women throughout the day too if I want to,,,, I believe it is a matter of time before I will have too many to choose from. lol I know I avoided them all before because I was committed to the last girl. All is good. Edited October 18, 2015 by Guyouthere
StBreton Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 Glad you had a good week GOT You "see" a lot more clearly now post divorce ...got your rebound out of the way. I know the feeling well. Way to go ...you're on the right road just be careful dating someone you work with. Actually I don't recommend but you can judge your own situation. And the young ones ...you've been down that road before ...there are lots of active woman within 10 yrs of your age who would be happy to keep up with you. 1
Author Guyouthere Posted October 18, 2015 Author Posted October 18, 2015 Thanks, The ex wife has long been out of the picture and my mind,,,, that was over 2 years ago now. I wouldn't classify this last woman as a rebound,,,, it really wasn't that at all. I really did love her, she just threw away a good guy, what can I say to that? What I can say is that I know I am worth a good woman,, at least one who I can trust too. Lets keep in touch, maybe you can teach me golf. lol A weird side note… for some reason, I find a lot of golfballs in the ocean. I have no idea who does that,,,, people practicing on the sand at night? lol Aso, just want to say, if thats you in the pic, you are quite pretty.
Versacehottie Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 It was just a good day. I know I am confident and know what I want, and also know I am quality for a good woman. I just want to choose wisely now…. after all I went through,,, I believe I have that obligation to myself now. Im the kind of guy who obviously loves women lot, just had the unfortunate experiences of having bad ones in the past. Chances are I will ask the coworker out soon, at least for company… maybe a good long walk on the beach too as we are both up to that kind of exercis I also don't want to use anyone,,,, so just being friends is a good thing too. Sex,… I am a very passionate guy, but only if I have real feelings for the woman. I won't even try sex with a woman unless I feel she is long term potential and also comfortable with it. Being available now…. and considering I work in a very busy place and exposed to a lot of people, and my position also gives me the chance to speak to many women throughout the day too if I want to,,,, I believe it is a matter of time before I will have too many to choose from. lol I know I avoided them all before because I was committed to the last girl. All is good. Glad you are getting some momentum. Here's some advice though. In response to the part bolded. Unless you are serious about this work woman, and it doesn't sound like you are, don't go there. It doesn't sound like you are ready to date just one, and not this one anyhow. If she's flirting with you, chances are, if she is like most women, she wants to truly date you--not be friends. That might be a sufficient consolation prize to you, but for most women it is not. Do yourselves both a favor and don't follow through on the phone call. The moment you do that, she is gonna have expectations, and kinda rightly so. I think people will assume that others use slightly better judgement when it involves their work environment....which is exactly what you should do. If you follow through even a little bit, hitting on customers, dating others will not be as easy. You will feel like you're in a pressure cooker. I think that's the last thing you need right now. If your feelings grow for her--through work interactions and over time--then you can pick back up and just say you were not ready to date which is why you didn't follow through the first time. I think you need to have fun right now. Starting something up with a coworker might seem easy and fun at first but then the same things that made it easy and fun will become suffocating if you aren't serious and ready. Well that's my advice 1
StBreton Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 Thanks, The ex wife has long been out of the picture and my mind,,,, that was over 2 years ago now. I wouldn't classify this last woman as a rebound,,,, it really wasn't that at all. I really did love her, she just threw away a good guy, what can I say to that? What I can say is that I know I am worth a good woman,, at least one who I can trust too. Lets keep in touch, maybe you can teach me golf. lol A weird side note… for some reason, I find a lot of golfballs in the ocean. I have no idea who does that,,,, people practicing on the sand at night? lol Aso, just want to say, if thats you in the pic, you are quite pretty. Well considering rebounds are often people we pick that are truly not suited for us and we overlook red flags but their presence boosts our ego ...she could be under the rebound category. Please don't shoot the messenger That is me in the pic. Now I'm blushing We spend a month on the beaches of sarasota every summer ...we build mini golf courses on the beach but don't hit them in the ocean. I've seen others do that though. My sis who's a scuba diver finds golf balls ...along with shark teeth I miss Florida
Author Guyouthere Posted October 18, 2015 Author Posted October 18, 2015 (edited) It is actually how I feel, why I am not jumping in. I could have even called her tonight after I left, both she and I have same schedules most of the time and so we both get off and leave when the store closes. Yea I feel it would be nice to have something else to do or someone to spend time with afterwards. I basically go home, make sure mom is OK, and then take the bike out for a 15-25 mile road trip, come home, get on here for a bit, then sleep. Night cycling is my pleasure and exercise too, except on full moon nights I will go to the beach I can easily meet someone for coffee afterwards if I wanted to. I feel as though I am starting anew, and I know I am. I don't want to comment unless that right woman comes along and I feel it. So far that hasn't happened. Customers flirt with me though. lol I had another lady tonight ask me about the gold coin I wear on my neck chain,, one I found out while treasure hunting. I get many people who do, always a good topic of conversation as finding treasure is always in the news here too (why they call it the Treasure Coast). It's how I start many conversations too, since I get int telling them I dive and find it. I have a feeling that I need a Mermaid. lol Edited October 18, 2015 by Guyouthere
Author Guyouthere Posted October 18, 2015 Author Posted October 18, 2015 Well considering rebounds are often people we pick that are truly not suited for us and we overlook red flags but their presence boosts our ego ...she could be under the rebound category. Please don't shoot the messenger That is me in the pic. Now I'm blushing We spend a month on the beaches of sarasota every summer ...we build mini golf courses on the beach but don't hit them in the ocean. I've seen others do that though. My sis who's a scuba diver finds golf balls ...along with shark teeth I miss Florida What happened with the last girl was that she presented herself as someone who she really wasn't. That is what fooled me. I never knew what a narcissist was, not in detail as I do now (and why I did more research on it). I simply can't be with anyone like that. So now I know the secret about the golfballs. lol Yes you are very pretty. I read your other post where you said you were a model, you still are one Florida is nice, I am on east coast, but have been on the other side at times. It is often hotter on the Gulf side. Next time you have the urge to come down here, perhaps I can show you how to shark fish and you can get your own set of teeth along with the jaws . hehehe 1
StBreton Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 What happened with the last girl was that she presented herself as someone who she really wasn't. That is what fooled me. I never knew what a narcissist was, not in detail as I do now (and why I did more research on it). I simply can't be with anyone like that. So now I know the secret about the golfballs. lol Yes you are very pretty. I read your other post where you said you were a model, you still are one Florida is nice, I am on east coast, but have been on the other side at times. It is often hotter on the Gulf side. Next time you have the urge to come down here, perhaps I can show you how to shark fish and you can get your own set of teeth along with the jaws . hehehe So I dated this guy last month and immediately identified he wasn't ok for me after 2 weeks ...but I couldn't have done that last year. I've had a few rebounds and can easily pick out what works and can really "see" people for who they are. It's uncanny. It had been 18 years since I had to use that radar and it was finely tuned in my 20s but I lost it. I'm realistic in identifying the guys I had relationships with the past year as rebounds. I'm ok being single but prefer a Relationship ...but now I'm very selective and not jumping in without looking looking checking the hull and the sails and everything. So we venture to the east coast on side trips ...Miami ...snorkeling the keys ...fort lauderdale. I'm looking at buying a house in Florida in the next 5 years. Thank you for the compliment shark fishing sounds fun!
Author Guyouthere Posted October 18, 2015 Author Posted October 18, 2015 So I dated this guy last month and immediately identified he wasn't ok for me after 2 weeks ...but I couldn't have done that last year. I've had a few rebounds and can easily pick out what works and can really "see" people for who they are. It's uncanny. It had been 18 years since I had to use that radar and it was finely tuned in my 20s but I lost it. I'm realistic in identifying the guys I had relationships with the past year as rebounds. I'm ok being single but prefer a Relationship ...but now I'm very selective and not jumping in without looking looking checking the hull and the sails and everything. So we venture to the east coast on side trips ...Miami ...snorkeling the keys ...fort lauderdale. I'm looking at buying a house in Florida in the next 5 years. Thank you for the compliment shark fishing sounds fun! Is it fair to say that generally speaking,, women have a greater ability to judge character than many men do? We both know many guys simply go after a woman for the physical, at least at first. I never actually let that matter too much to me. If I look back, I can say that the few women I have been with weren't too physically attractive. I like the fact I am that way (to an extent) because I know it isn't really what counts. I look more at the person as a whole, and if they have great looks, so be it. I can tell you like boating,,,, do any racing at all? Miami… I grew up on Miami Beach, still go there on occasion to treasure hunt. The Keys are nice too,,,, have you ever been to Looe Key? It is near Big Pine Key,,,, and I believe a lot nicer than Pennekamp and sone of the other reefs. We used to make it a vacation each year when I was married. I lost the larger boat in the divorce and now have only the Whaler. Home prices here are pretty stable at the moment. Mom was asking me if i wanted to sell this place since it is too much for us now (just her and I and a poodle). At 90 years old, I don't want to uproot her. We have good neighbors too (they are here half of the year) and the Chinese lady spends time with her when I am at work. Overall I feel I can live anywhere as long as it is on or close to the ocean. That is a must.
Author Guyouthere Posted October 18, 2015 Author Posted October 18, 2015 Just in case you want to see some of my productions.,,, (I believe you will like them)….. just go on U-Tube and find my channel…. My username is "Diggin Rings" (type it as one word). I film my underwater treasure hunting as well as a lot of the fishing. If you have never seen a shark almost fly into a boat, you will on my channel. lol :0
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