missgrey Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 We’ve been friends for three years, until two months ago, we decided to take the next step. It was two months of bliss. I was in love with my best friend. our connection was effortless. Everything seemed right. It turns out, his ex gf was 6 months pregnant. She wasn’t sure who the father was, so they had it tested. We found out last week that it’s his. We were devastated. When we met the day we found out, he just pulled me close, held me tight, both of us crying, chests heaving, not saying a word. We cried for what we had, for what was coming, and what could have been. He asked me to be strong, and he apologized. He decided to marry her, because it’s the “best for everyone”. He’s being pressured by her family, his parents, and the what everyone would say. He’s from a broken family, and he doesn’t want that for his kid. We advised him not to make any drastic change until he’s got time to think about it, or at least until the baby’s born. He’s convinced that since he and his ex were together for two years before they broke up, and somehow he still has feelings for her, they can make it work this time, specially with the baby coming. I know he’ll try, he’ll give his best to have a happy family. She’ll try too, because I know she still loves him. They have a real shot at happiness. And I sincerely wish that for him, I pray that at least he’ll be really happy. But it hurts, it hurts so bad. I’ve never felt this kind of pain, the kind that makes my chest hurt literally, the pain that I can feel to my fingertips. It’s hard to breathe, and the thought of losing him is always at the back of my head. I find it hard to sleep at night, and in the morning, it’s hard to get off of bed. I know I should cry it out, but no tears would fall. It was so sudden. I’m not ready. They’re getting married next month. Of all the dates, they chose my birth month. They’re rushing before her pregnancy shows. I know I wouldn’t want to stay in a relationship with him even if he doesn’t marry her, I wouldn’t want that setting, but it doesn’t lessen the pain.
casey.lives Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 I thought you were already married!!! congratulations. making it official is such a wonderful step. your life takes on a whole new meaning. Being a Mr. and Mrs... EXCITING!!! cheers.
Author missgrey Posted October 18, 2015 Author Posted October 18, 2015 uhmm.. no, he's getting married to his ex gf
CarrieT Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 Time to walk away, Ms. Grey. He has made his decision and you can't be his "side relationship" or even his friend right now. You know you will cross boundaries and do things that will jeopardize his marriage (sham though it is). Go No Contact ASAP and start to heal.
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