"You never forget your first love": What does this mean to you?

[loverage21]

I don't get it. If you have loved more than one person in your life don't you never forget all of them? Of course I never really had a first love.

 

What does this mean to you?

[Michelle ma Belle]

It means it was monumental at the time. A milestone. That feeling of opening up, trusting and falling in love, especially the first time, changes you forever.

[loverage21]

It means it was monumental at the time. A milestone. That feeling of opening up, trusting and falling in love, especially the first time, changes you forever.

 

So I guess no one else after that will be as sentimental?

Like what about your second ex for example?

[Michelle ma Belle]

So I guess no one else after that will be as sentimental?

Like what about your second ex for example?

 

Of course. All ex's would be, for better or worse. But falling in love for the first time is like losing your virginity. It's "extra" special because it was the first time.

[loverage21]

Of course. All ex's would be, for better or worse. But falling in love for the first time is like losing your virginity. It's "extra" special because it was the first time.

 

So I am guessing he is extra special than all other exes a girl has been with? Am I right? He holds the candle over other guys who have loved you and all the others I guess are ordinary?

 

There's no wrong answer. You can be honest.

[Michelle ma Belle]

So I am guessing he is extra special than all other exes a girl has been with? Am I right? He holds the candle over other guys who have loved you and all the others I guess are ordinary?

 

There's no wrong answer. You can be honest.

 

It's not like that. My first doesn't "hold a candle over" anyone and therefore "every other man is just ordinary". It's not that black and white OP.

 

It's very hard to explain to someone who hasn't been in love before.

 

Your first love does hold a special place but that doesn't mean there isn't room for other loves. Quite the opposite.

 

If you don't mind me asking, have you lost your virginity yet? Unless your first experience was horrifying (and some are), you should understand what I mean.

[casey.lives]

You do forget..

[loverage21]

It's not like that. My first doesn't "hold a candle over" anyone and therefore "every other man is just ordinary". It's not that black and white OP.

 

It's very hard to explain to someone who hasn't been in love before.

 

Your first love does hold a special place but that doesn't mean there isn't room for other loves. Quite the opposite.

 

If you don't mind me asking, have you lost your virginity yet? Unless your first experience was horrifying (and some are), you should understand what I mean.

 

Heh heh

I am glad you asked because I was going to tell you.

 

I lost my virginity to a beautiful girl about three months ago. We took each others virginities. The day after, I fell for her even more when we spent the whole day at the amusement park. I thought I had her. But despite me taking her virginity she has avoided me like the plague. Removed all ways of contact.

 

Of course I did not make wise decisions afterwards. But I can guarantee you I don't deserve a place in her heart. Haha

 

She was 16 at the time, I was 20 at the time. Now she is 17 and I am 21.

 

So to answer your question, yes I have lost my virginity. But it was never in the context of a relationship and I can say I never had a first love because I never been in a relationship. " Love" is a strong word. Not to be used lightly. Yes, I have had intense feelings for girls. But never love.

[Seeker12]

For me the meaning is simple, the most natural, automatic growth of love and attachment so far. Now I am in a new relationship per se, but this is more structured, more deliberate, more determined and precise, now i know what i want and what makes me click. But my first girl, who i ended with this time last year, was never so thought out, it just happened.

[loverage21]

It's not like that. My first doesn't "hold a candle over" anyone and therefore "every other man is just ordinary". It's not that black and white OP.

 

It's very hard to explain to someone who hasn't been in love before.

 

Your first love does hold a special place but that doesn't mean there isn't room for other loves. Quite the opposite.

 

If you don't mind me asking, have you lost your virginity yet? Unless your first experience was horrifying (and some are), you should understand what I mean.

 

My question tho does it feel your first has the largest space in your heart compared to other exes?

[Michelle ma Belle]

My question tho does it feel your first has the largest space in your heart compared to other exes?

 

No, not necessarily. Or at least not for me. My last partner was the love of my life...up to this point, and the single greatest love affair I've ever had. I have a special place for my first love who incidentally became (ex) husband but there was more than enough room for my second love. I can only hope for a third

[guest569]

My question tho does it feel your first has the largest space in your heart compared to other exes?

 

I'm with you, i don't understand this quote. I will never forget any of my loves and the first was no more or less special than subsequent. I dont intend on falling in love countless times to the point where i forget any of them

[mightycpa]

It's a saying because for most people, their first love happens as a teenager. Everything is totally intense when you're a teenager, compared to when you get older. So you might love somebody as much later on, more probably, but the intensity is different. Plus, your first time, it's uncharted waters.

 

 

I wouldn't worry about it. You're right, you'll remember all of them.

[OK_computer]

I still talk to my first love. Known her for 13 years, I was 15 when I fell in love with her. I remember her not for the sweet memories of her, but the memories of what it felt like the first time you were in love, like the idea of love was so intriguing and exhilarating. It's like the first time you do anything fun, never forget what it felt like, after that RS, the others lost that intensity.

[Draper]

I think a big part of why you may never forget it is because you learn so much from it, and therefore you might not look at future relationships the same way as you would have the first time.

 

I don't know, I just feel like in the first relationship you have those feelings where you're sure that this is the one you'll marry and all that, and then it goes south and you're forced to learn a lot about yourself and relationships. That make any sense?

[StBreton]

My question tho does it feel your first has the largest space in your heart compared to other exes?

 

Now that's a good question! No not the biggest space in my heart ...but in the "sweetest" place in my heart. Young innocent love ... Not a jaded moment in there ...zero baggage ...not all bliss but an awakening.

[Els]

I barely think about my 'first love' anymore, be it my first (unreciprocated) crush or my first failed relationship. I am still on amicable terms with both of them but thank heavens neither of the above worked out - looking back with slightly-older-and-wiser hindsight makes me realize that we were not compatible in the slightest!

 

So I think the quote is kinda bull****, unless you spent many years with your 'first love' (which is rare). Most people don't end up with their first R, and most first Rs don't even last more than a couple of years.

[NoMoreJerks]

This statement means little to me. Of course I would never forget my first love, but that is because I would not forget anyone I have dated!!!! (even ones I have gone out on one date with). I have a great memory. Also, while I thought I loved my first BF, now that I think about it, it was not actually love, but addiction/infatuation. So, if I do remember him, and so vividly, it's because he was such a jerk and a psycho, and because I remember every single person who has come into and exited from my life (relationship-wise and non-relationship-wise); not because he was my first "love."

 

As for thinking about him -- well, I rarely if ever gave him much thought... except when my subsequent relationship (my recent one) broke down and I started comparing my recent ex's level of a**sholery to my first ex's level of *ssholery.

[loverage21]

I still talk to my first love. Known her for 13 years, I was 15 when I fell in love with her. I remember her not for the sweet memories of her, but the memories of what it felt like the first time you were in love, like the idea of love was so intriguing and exhilarating. It's like the first time you do anything fun, never forget what it felt like, after that RS, the others lost that intensity.

 

Well I'd hate to be that unlucky bastard that happened between her first and most current lover because I guess I would not hold that much sentimental value

[loverage21]

Now that's a good question! No not the biggest space in my heart ...but in the "sweetest" place in my heart. Young innocent love ... Not a jaded moment in there ...zero baggage ...not all bliss but an awakening.

 

Does the first have the most sentimental or nostalgic value?

 

So if a girl was with a guy for lets say 2 years in high school, then was with a guy for a long time in college and they broke up too...I am guessing the high school sweetheart will have more of a thought in her mind and the college guy she was with would not hold thought?

[loverage21]

I think a big part of why you may never forget it is because you learn so much from it, and therefore you might not look at future relationships the same way as you would have the first time.

 

I don't know, I just feel like in the first relationship you have those feelings where you're sure that this is the one you'll marry and all that, and then it goes south and you're forced to learn a lot about yourself and relationships. That make any sense?

 

But in terms of fondness and memory, does the first one hold the most weight?

[Seeker12]

But in terms of fondness and memory, does the first one hold the most weight?

 

Not really no, if that first relationship was very good, and just ended bad, then yes maybe, as she/he will eventually just remember the good times and the memories/nostalgia and just miss that, and see all the purity in the love you gave to him/her. Whereas if the first relationship was crap, he/she was badly treated, hey even if the first and second were, and then the 3rd was the best ever but then ended badly, and she/he really felt the best and happy/content and like this is the one in the relationship, then the 3rd relationship would be the one which holds most weight and fondness and memory, rather than the first 2.

[BonerFide]

What does this mean to you?

 

To me, it means that your first love has a special place in your heart, even if that place diminishes overtime and is overpowered with stronger love. I think it's just because (like people have said), there's something quite pure and magical about opening up and giving yourself fully to someone for the first time, and after it burns out (which let's be honest, usually it does) you're still going to remember them, you know? Because of all the people you reveal your soul too, they were the first. I agree that some people's second or third loves can be just as special and more so, but of course the first love is also tied to you feeling/discovering love for the first time, which is memorable in itself even if the person isn't. Is that vague enough? Ha-ha.

[loverage21]

To me, it means that your first love has a special place in your heart, even if that place diminishes overtime and is overpowered with stronger love. I think it's just because (like people have said), there's something quite pure and magical about opening up and giving yourself fully to someone for the first time, and after it burns out (which let's be honest, usually it does) you're still going to remember them, you know? Because of all the people you reveal your soul too, they were the first. I agree that some people's second or third loves can be just as special and more so, but of course the first love is also tied to you feeling/discovering love for the first time, which is memorable in itself even if the person isn't. Is that vague enough? Ha-ha.

 

Aka...if you end up being the lover between the first and most current than you pretty much don't hold that much sentimental weight

[sandylee1]

It's a feeling you have never previous experienced, that's why it's so special. Special at the time, but depending on how it ended, you may not always have wholly great memories of it.

 

I'll never forget my first love and it didn't end badly either. In fact just writing this, I know that we would have ended up getting married if I wanted, as he was so in love with me.

 

Oh well...that was many years ago and I get a little sentimental thinking about it.