guild11 Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 Hello, so heres the story, me and my GF work in the same place, one of my collegues (recently married) asked us to come after work, my shift was supppose end after 12am. At first I said alright we will come, but later I changed my mind my mind and said I that I cant because I have stuff to do after work, and do stuff in the morning before work. Later that day I was talking to my GF and he approached us, said to my GF that I dont want to come, she asked me why and got upset. Then she looked at me smiled and said to him "ok then, I will come alone" and they both laughed. I dont about you but it felt very disrespectful that GF tells other guy and I dont care if he is married, that she will come alone to his place at night. Before she left home we talked a bit, her 1st question was if I changed my mind about going to his place, and when I said no she got upset again. I told her that she really pissed me off, she went on defensive telling that it was a joke and that he is married. If I'm her boyfriend I dont expect to hear crap like that, and when I said that I cant come she shouldn't have asked twice and could simply tell my collegue "thats my boyfriend's decision" and not getting upset because of that. Opinion?
d0nnivain Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 You are her BF not her dad. It's solely her decision about where she goes, when & who she hangs out with. You chose not to go. That certainly doesn't mean she has to stay home. 1
TaraMaiden2 Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 Hello, so heres the story, me and my GF work in the same place, one of my collegues (recently married) asked us to come after work, my shift was supppose end after 12am. At first I said alright we will come, but later I changed my mind my mind and said I that I cant because I have stuff to do after work, and do stuff in the morning before work. Fair enough. Good reasons... Later that day I was talking to my GF and he approached us, said to my GF that I dont want to come, she asked me why and got upset. Then she looked at me smiled and said to him "ok then, I will come alone" and they both laughed. It was an invitation to both of you. You chose to not go she chose to go... I dont about you but it felt very disrespectful that GF tells other guy and I dont care if he is married, that she will come alone to his place at night. As he's recently married, I son't see the issue... it's very rare that a recently married man will be at home alone, and that he cheat or behave inappropriately... So where's the issue? You think she should not have gone just because you didn't? Before she left home we talked a bit, her 1st question was if I changed my mind about going to his place, and when I said no she got upset again. so twice she asked about you going. Twice she 'got upset'. How urgent, vital or critical was the stuff you had to do that evening/the next morning? I told her that she really pissed me off, she went on defensive telling that it was a joke and that he is married. I have to say you do sound a bit controlling/possessive.... If I'm her boyfriend I dont expect to hear crap like that, and when I said that I cant come she shouldn't have asked twice and could simply tell my collegue "thats my boyfriend's decision" and not getting upset because of that. ...And she's not your mom, or your mouthpiece. She has no obligation to play second fiddle to you. Maybe she gets frustrated because you're all work and no play... Opinion? I get the impression it's not just about this.
craw Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 It's going to become frustrating for the both of you, if you always want to stay in and she wants to go out.
bachdude Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 First off, NEVER break your word to your girlfriend, especially regarding a date or time spent together, unless it is extremely urgent or life or death. Having "stuff to do after work" doesn't qualify. Before you commit to going out with your girlfriend, you need to really make sure you can go. By breaking a date, you appear unreliable and you indicate, by your actions, she is low on your list of priorities. You should have gone with her and then figured out how to finish the work, even though it would have been very inconvenient for you. Number two, you came off hypersensitive and controlling by getting all bent out of shape about her little joke. Both actions on your part can be a real turn off for women. Be careful.
WomenWubber Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 Sounds like you both have unrealistic expectations of each other.
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