DirtyBerty Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 Hi all. I've posted a few times on here and been reading a lot of posts for the last couple of months. I'm very up and down since my break up (2 months ago and was a 7 year relationship). I'm asking this question and I already sort of know the answer, but should I contact my ex just to check if she misses me and wants another go? I just wonder if anyone has done this before and whether it always goes wrong and makes you worse. Can contacting her ever make you feel better? And yes even though she left me and I wasn't very happy in the relationship, I would still take her back I think.
candie13 Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 No news is bad news - for making up (but good news for accepting the break up) Interested women act interested. Silence speaks louder than a thousand words. How about you start thinking about why the RS failed to begin with, get some key learnings and some perspective as to your own faults and short comings - as well as hers - and then think if you really want to go back? 1
Author DirtyBerty Posted October 17, 2015 Author Posted October 17, 2015 No news is bad news - for making up (but good news for accepting the break up) Interested women act interested. Silence speaks louder than a thousand words. How about you start thinking about why the RS failed to begin with, get some key learnings and some perspective as to your own faults and short comings - as well as hers - and then think if you really want to go back? Yep I know that makes sense, but the way we left it was she wanted time to see how she felt, although she said that if nothing changed we wouldn't try again. I guess I'm just worried that she might be doing the same as me. Trying to be strong and not contact even though she wants to.
d0nnivain Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 Since she wanted out, contacting her won't change a thing. She might miss you & the good times you had but that's no reason to reconcile. While I don't think you contacting her will lead to the outcome you desire -- getting back together -- based on the idea that we regret more in life the things we don't do, then the actions we take, I say contact her. Her response or more probably lack there of, may be the last impetus you need to move forward.
boltam Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 She broke up with you because she didn't want to be with you. She's not thinking about what you want, she's thinking about what she wants. If she changes her mind, she'll contact you because again, that's what she wants. None of this is about you anymore.
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