dreamersreverie Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 (edited) I'm interesting in hearing about your stories. I've pretty much never been on a date or had any experience with anything and I'm <in my 20's>. So I decided online dating sites would be a good start because I would feel more comfortable. For the most part, I didn't get much out of it. I decided to push myself outside of my comfort zone and ended up talking to guys who seemed overwhelmingly desperate. The first guy always wanted me to add him/vice versa on every social media account, told me how we were both in similar situations and that he was embarrassed because he basically had the same dating/relationship experience as me and decided he wanted to see me soon after. I found that awkward and I saw him more as a friend. I The next guy, it seemed like we got along for a little bit even though we had different interests. Then it seemed as if he had an aggressive side, he basically wrote a detailed message that started with "**** YOU" because I didn't respond soon enough and said how he was so worried etc... He also made an effort to insult some of my favorite interests shows, movies, hobbies, by calling it **** and the latter. To me it seemed that he had an aggressive personality, insensitive traits, and and possibly clingy behavior. Both these guys didn't have any prior dating/relationship experience. I kind of thought in my mind that it would be better if I found someone who was on the same boat as me but now I'm feeling as if it's quite the opposite. I'm really glad I never actually met these guys. Anyway, I have a date tomorrow and not from someone I met online. I'm pretty sure my friend set me up but that's another story. Edited July 30, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs and remove precise age 1
shet Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 Only been doing it for under a year. It's been horrible. Not 1 in 500 women engage with you. The women I want to meet aren't interested in even talking. The ones who will talk, and meet, I'm pretty lukewarm about - but if I was to ignore them I wouldn't be getting anything out of the process at all, and you never know what might happen in person - theoretically at least (I can safely say I've had no pleasant surprises, people are pretty much like you expected them to be from chatting). 2 out of 3 of those I meet are uncomfortably weird in some way. The ones who aren't are just too different to me to see being with, despite promising conversations beforehand. And even then, it's they who reject me - lonely as I am I'm always prepared to give it a shot. About the only positive thing I can say is that I've had no wacky, embarrassing or awkward dates. Everyone always counsels the difficulty of dating, kiss a lot of frogs etc. I take that to heart and consider it a process that has to be gone through. 1
d0nnivain Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 10 years ago after coming out of an LTR & being single for the 1st time as an adult I tried OLD because everyone said it was the thing to do. I was only on it for 90 days I hated it. Yes, there was some excitement when my inbox said I had a new "match" I was on a site where it picked; I couldn't browse the available men but mostly I experienced a ton of rejection, not to brag but I got rejected way more OL then I ever did IRL. I never did figure out why. I managed to talk to about 5 men over the course of 90 days. I met two & neither were men I would have given the time of day had I met them IRL. I can't shop for socks on line so I don't know why I could date OL 2
WomenWubber Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 It was not a success, but I wouldn't say it was a complete waste of time. Helped me figure out some things about myself. 1
Revan32 Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 I just went on a Tinder date tonight. We get dinner, bring her home, tells me she has herpes, a Dom, and has slept with 2 other guys within the past 24 hours. Pretty typical OLD date. 2
Ami1uwant Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 (edited) When you are in your early 20s you are still at an age where it should be easier to meet people by/thru 1. College 2. Socializing/networking with friends 3. You aren't invested in a career yet so you could easily date coworkers. 4. Go to the bars and socialize The ones who use online dating in that age range tend to be shy, socially isolated, never dated, etc... When you get to late 29s/early 30s you want to find someone snd settle down. At that time it gets harder to meet because many you socilized with have gotten married snd had kids. You are also more invested in your career. It becomes harder to meet snd date. Edited October 17, 2015 by Ami1uwant 1
Strahatmak Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 I hate it. I feel uncomfortable putting myself out on the shelf; then a friend suggests an online dating app that provides a lot more privacy so I give it a try. I guess the user base isn't that great so I run out of match pretty fast. For the previous matches, those men who initiated the engagement didn't initiate the chat, and didn't put effort to communicate - they took 2 to 3 days to respond a message. WTH. Plus the matches weren't great either. I guess if one wants a serious relationship, go with the traditional dating service - because it costs LOL 1
Vintage79 Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 I don't know why some guys say it's hard to meet women online. The last few times I have tried online dating you have 2-3 pretty first dates/week with pretty decent women for the first month or so and then it calms down to 1-2/week thereafter...it's super easy if you aren't a putz, know how to write short, intriguing messages, have a life, and are half way decent looking...don't let the losers who for some reason think that women should flock to a low quality guy just because they are online dissuade you from trying. 1
CalvinM Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 I've never had issues getting dates, but I recently went through a dry spell where none of the potential dates I messaged replied back. Then a few weeks later, I'd start getting replies. It's all very unpredictable. I'm seeing someone off pof now. It's early days, but so far, it's oksville.
Disconnect Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 The only time I've tried it was to see if there were any fanciable men that piqued my interest in my city, so I set up a pretend POF. I wrote a quick couple of lines as description (patently sarcastic, anyone with half a brain cell could see it wasn't to be taken seriously) and didn't put up a picture. Within about 40 minutes I had over 30 messages, variations of 'ur so funny babe, when u gon put up ur picture, can't wait babe xxx'. All without exception seemed thick as two short planks and nauseatingly over-familiar. I took my 'profile' straight down and haven't looked at any dating sites since.
Truth34 Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 I haven't had much luck getting many replies from the ones im interested in. So far its been a waste of time, but whatever.
Revan32 Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 The only time I've tried it was to see if there were any fanciable men that piqued my interest in my city, so I set up a pretend POF. I wrote a quick couple of lines as description (patently sarcastic, anyone with half a brain cell could see it wasn't to be taken seriously) and didn't put up a picture. Within about 40 minutes I had over 30 messages, variations of 'ur so funny babe, when u gon put up ur picture, can't wait babe xxx'. All without exception seemed thick as two short planks and nauseatingly over-familiar. I took my 'profile' straight down and haven't looked at any dating sites since. It's these types of morons who are ruining online dating for the rest of us. How desperate do you have to be to message someone with no pic!? They should make a site where you can only message 5 people a day. Even better, they should make it have a rating system, and you could only message people who are within 2 points of your own rating. If someone wants to steal my idea and go make this dating website, I give full permission. 1
mbee Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 I'll speak on the positive side here. I've actually had generally good experiences with online dating, however I'm turned off to it. I'm a pretty attractive female and am a good catch by a lot of people's standards. I also have a very interesting social life (I do comedy professionally for instance) and volunteer around the world. In other words, I think its easier for guys to start conversations with me online. I meet guys to date IRL and OL. I had a very serious 2 year relationship with a guy I met OL and was crazy about. He was normal but also a huge jerk. I've dated huge jerks IRL so I didn't associate that with me meeting him online. I made a great friend OL. We really hit it off and tried to date but couldn't get past the weirdness of it all so remained friends. I also met a guy who is honestly like a soulmate. He's one of my best friends but he's going through a lot emotionally and is not available for a relationship. Maybe one day something more can happen but for now we are friends. We were in a relationship for several months and have dated off and on but he's dealing with a lot in his personal life. I've met some really nice and attractive guys online. So you can have good experiences BUT you only need to respond to guys who seem normal. Don't give guys a shot just cause you have the same relationship history. The only reason I'm not a fan of online dating is because it does take a very long time to just find someone you are attracted to and enjoy talking with. I find it much easier to do that in person than on a dating website. But it is possible to find someone you can click with, it just takes time and you need to filter out a lot of guys based on what they type in a message or red flags in their profile. Best of luck though!
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