Trane Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 #1Height #2Hair #3 & #4 make her look good in High-Heels Money does trump all though. It has no height requirement. Making her laugh is a nice bonus but humour will only get you so far. Having a nice body is a nice bonus too, but only if you have the height and the presence to go with it. A short guy with a nice body and presence is often accused of trying too hard or is overcompensating. Confidence is not measured fairly and equally between all men. It explains why many women throw the Napoleon Syndrome label at a short guy with the exact same confidence as a tall guy. A short guy who's shy and lacks confidence is a weakling that's not worthy by rule of many women. A tall guy who lacks confidence just need a little help and is more often given a free pass.
kassy Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 So just a guess... You are short with a big chop on your shoulder? Seriously if this is your world view then I'm not surprised you are single. It's a convenient story you tell yourself to mean there is nothing wrong with you it's everyone else. Which is rubbish. Anyway life isn't fair, grow up and stop acting like a child throwing a tantrum. 9
casey.lives Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 Integrity courageous positive and supportive.... and nice hands 3
basil67 Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 compassionate, friendly, calm, respectful And very importantly, he doesn't take himself too seriously. 1
phineas Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 4 H's that I believe help me to get women. Hung like a Kodiak bear. (just a few inches above average ) Hairy chest. Have fun wherever I go Hobbies.
Lois_Griffin Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 So just a guess... You are short with a big chop on your shoulder? Seriously if this is your world view then I'm not surprised you are single. It's a convenient story you tell yourself to mean there is nothing wrong with you it's everyone else. Which is rubbish. Anyway life isn't fair, grow up and stop acting like a child throwing a tantrum. LOL. That was exactly what I surmised about halfway through the OP's post. I actually prefer short men. I'm only 5' tall and quite honestly, 6' tall is way too much for me. It hurts my neck to kiss these people. I much prefer a guy around 5'7" or 5'8". When I wear heels I'm almost 5'4" so they're still taller than me. But I will admit #2 is a must have on my list. Not having a full head of hair is an absolute deal-breaker for me. Luckily, my husband is 5'7" with a gorgeous head of full, dark thick hair. Woo hoo! 1
lana-banana Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 This is so wrongheaded I scarcely know where to begin. What about the thread title? I love the implication that "eastern" women are somehow less shallow, as if a guy who fails at dating in the United States can move to Tokyo and find a good, loving wife tomorrow. (And have you noticed how they claim "western culture" is the problem, but never praise women in African or Middle Eastern cultures, hmm?) #1Height No, not really. For a while I dated a guy who was 5'5", well-proportioned, and overflowing with confidence. He married a woman who's 6'1". Height is what you make of it. #2Hair 2 out of 3 men will experience some degree of balding in their lifetimes. I'd rather date a guy with no hair and a good attitude than a jerk with perfect hair. My current boyfriend has a receding hairline and, in my opinion, couldn't be more handsome. #3 & #4 make her look good in High-Heels Wha? Where's the subject? 3 and 4 are "making her look good in high heels"? I don't get it. I want a partner and an equal, not an accessory. Money does trump all though. It has no height requirement. Hilariously false. I dated a millionaire once (heir to a huge automotive industry fortune) and I couldn't break up with him fast enough. He was handsome and well-intentioned, but legitimately psychotic. He is currently institutionalized. But whatever...money, right? That's all women want? Making her laugh is a nice bonus but humour will only get you so far. Wrong again. I make jokes all the time and can't date someone who doesn't make me laugh; in fact, I once broke up with someone simply because he never said anything funny. I know it's not important to everyone but for me jokes are a sign of a quick wit and intellectual agility. It's how I like to engage with partners in a lighthearted way. True, there's a lot more to someone than their ability to make you laugh, but it's extremely important to me. Having a nice body is a nice bonus too, but only if you have the height and the presence to go with it. A short guy with a nice body and presence is often accused of trying too hard or is overcompensating. He's only accused of that if he is actually trying too hard or overcompensating. The kind of guy who works out fanatically while also obsessing over how mean women are for preferring taller guys is indeed overcompensating. Confidence is not measured fairly and equally between all men. It explains why many women throw the Napoleon Syndrome label at a short guy with the exact same confidence as a tall guy. I was not aware there was some kind of confidence scale with an absolute indicator. For what it's worth I think "Napoleon complex" is thrown around a lot at short guys by women, friends, co-workers, anybody. I do agree there is sometimes a sense that a short, aggressive or ambitious guy is trying to compensate for something, and that's not fair. But it's by no means exclusive to dating. A short guy who's shy and lacks confidence is a weakling that's not worthy by rule of many women. A tall guy who lacks confidence just need a little help and is more often given a free pass. Maybe you'd seem more confident if you weren't so singularly focused on your size. Any guy who dwells at length on his short(har har)comings is obviously very insecure, and a potential partner will pick up on it. Of course we all have our insecurities but what matters is that we acknowledge and bear them with a good humor. Women are sometimes insecure about their chest size, but they generally understand that most men don't care: preferences aside, the best features belong to the woman they love. I wish more men understood this too. Yes, I like tall hot guys, but I'd throw every last one of them in a volcano tomorrow for the man I'm with today (who isn't that tall, has a receding hairline and a slight physical handicap). 1
PrettyEmily77 Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 The BF is 5.8 and 42 has just started loosing his hair. I do love high heels though but at 5.2, I almost don't have a choice in the matter. This leaves us with money - given that I can support myself in style already, his money is not necessary. Sorry to be blowing your 4 H theory out of the water there, OP... My own personal 4 H: - Hkind -Hintuitive -Hrespectful -Hsexy 5
TaraMaiden2 Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 #1Height #2Hair #3 & #4 make her look good in High-Heels Money does trump all though. It has no height requirement. Making her laugh is a nice bonus but humour will only get you so far. Having a nice body is a nice bonus too, but only if you have the height and the presence to go with it. A short guy with a nice body and presence is often accused of trying too hard or is overcompensating. Confidence is not measured fairly and equally between all men. It explains why many women throw the Napoleon Syndrome label at a short guy with the exact same confidence as a tall guy. A short guy who's shy and lacks confidence is a weakling that's not worthy by rule of many women. A tall guy who lacks confidence just need a little help and is more often given a free pass. This shows a clear and definite bias towards tall women. What, you don't think petite women exist? Or you're saying you wouldn't give them the time of day? Or you just don't notice them because you're so utterly engrossed in staring at a tall woman's assets? No pretty, sexy, intelligent, confident, little ladies? none? they're all toothless, butt-ugly and stupid? Way to make us feel self-conscious for being so small as to not even hit your radar... Thanks for that.
candie13 Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 I wonder how a similar women self pity thread would look. It should feature Size of the Breasts, Length of the Legs, Thinness of the Thighs and Tightness of the Vagina, on top of Hair Height and Money - because men nowadays don't want no hoes ! I'll just play it wild and not even mention Humour and Education because ... like... on women these might actually not be that relevant... oh, let's add Selective Mutism around Men - that might be a big plus on this list - who needs fluent English when one can nod enthusiastically and gaze happily into the eyes of her Man... God forbid you're a tiny fatty pimply women these days... I wonder why none of those ever posts similar threads around here ... oh yeah, wait, maybe because those have self esteem and a life ! 4
Haydn Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 Funny trumps everything for me. If a girl can have me in stitches it`s such a turn on. OP, Height Hair Money None of these things have ever come up for me when chatting up a girl. She never asked me how tall i was or how much money i earn. I assumed she was too busy having a good laugh with me. (Ok, i have hair so that must have clinched it) 3
TaraMaiden2 Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 I would just like to say that my above post was actually sarcastic. I'm petite, but I've dated guys just over my height, to much taller.... I think the tall guys felt protective. The guys nearer my height just loved the sex appeal I exuded. Haydn, you and I would get on very well, buddy. My H tells me the one thing which singled me out from any other woman he's ever known is that I kept him in stitches for a whole week.... and I don't mean sutures....
Haydn Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 I would just like to say that my above post was actually sarcastic. I'm petite, but I've dated guys just over my height, to much taller.... I think the tall guys felt protective. The guys nearer my height just loved the sex appeal I exuded. Haydn, you and I would get on very well, buddy. My H tells me the one thing which singled me out from any other woman he's ever known is that I kept him in stitches for a whole week.... and I don't mean sutures.... I have no doubt TM.
thefooloftheyear Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 This right here sums the "4 H's"... TFY
phineas Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 I wonder how a similar women self pity thread would look. It should feature Size of the Breasts, Length of the Legs, Thinness of the Thighs and Tightness of the Vagina, on top of Hair Height and Money - because men nowadays don't want no hoes ! I'll just play it wild and not even mention Humour and Education because ... like... on women these might actually not be that relevant... oh, let's add Selective Mutism around Men - that might be a big plus on this list - who needs fluent English when one can nod enthusiastically and gaze happily into the eyes of her Man... God forbid you're a tiny fatty pimply women these days... I wonder why none of those ever posts similar threads around here ... oh yeah, wait, maybe because those have self esteem and a life ! It's always the prettiest girls that beat themselves up the most about all their imperfections in my experience.
Shepp Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 I have nice hair.. I think its a good feature - its thick, its blonde, it kinda sticks up naturally, like as hair goes I think its pretty decent .....and all this time I thought my wife married me for my humour, my passion, or my good nature ...I must of been wrong I don't think women care as much as you think about how tall you are. I would imagine they see it as a big deal if the guy sees it as a big deal! I think ultimately its an excuse for a guy to blame an external factor (his genes) for something that is actually totally within his control! I'm 5"11 so I'm not short, but I am a little small for the position I play on the football pitch and I didn't get a lot of my height till my late teens so when I was playing through various football academes I was one of the smallest guys. Not something that ever really bothered me but it did bother some coaches. Someone said you can measure height but you cant measure heart, and you've got enough to make up the inches - that's the biggest compliment you could give me! ill take that anyday! 2
losangelena Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 The BF is 5.8 and 42 has just started loosing his hair. I do love high heels though but at 5.2, I almost don't have a choice in the matter. This leaves us with money - given that I can support myself in style already, his money is not necessary. Sorry to be blowing your 4 H theory out of the water there, OP... My own personal 4 H: - Hkind -Hintuitive -Hrespectful -Hsexy *** This is me virtually high-fiving you! 3
Got it Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 I am still trying to figure out where the 4th H is in the OP's post . . . he says there are four of them.
Timshel Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 #1Height #2Hair #3 & #4 make her look good in High-Heels Money does trump all though. It has no height requirement. Making her laugh is a nice bonus but humour will only get you so far. Having a nice body is a nice bonus too, but only if you have the height and the presence to go with it. A short guy with a nice body and presence is often accused of trying too hard or is overcompensating. Confidence is not measured fairly and equally between all men. It explains why many women throw the Napoleon Syndrome label at a short guy with the exact same confidence as a tall guy. A short guy who's shy and lacks confidence is a weakling that's not worthy by rule of many women. A tall guy who lacks confidence just need a little help and is more often given a free pass. Sorry that you feel this way Trane. Hang in there; the reason you're thinking like this is because you haven't met the right woman yet, that's all. Sulking a bit is normal but don't let it keep you down. 2
Popsicle Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 #1Height #2Hair #3 & #4 make her look good in High-Heels Money does trump all though. It has no height requirement. Making her laugh is a nice bonus but humour will only get you so far. Having a nice body is a nice bonus too, but only if you have the height and the presence to go with it. A short guy with a nice body and presence is often accused of trying too hard or is overcompensating. Confidence is not measured fairly and equally between all men. It explains why many women throw the Napoleon Syndrome label at a short guy with the exact same confidence as a tall guy. A short guy who's shy and lacks confidence is a weakling that's not worthy by rule of many women. A tall guy who lacks confidence just need a little help and is more often given a free pass. When is your book coming out?
craw Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 1. Humility - nobody cares, listening to someone extensively brag is boring and shows insecurity. 2. Honesty - be honest and communicate your thoughts. Not interested in more than a fling? Make it clear. Want more of relationship? Say it. 3. Hunger be hungry for life and passion, not to inspire to be a couch potato, but not asking for 24/7 weekend banger. Be excited. It's so easy not to do anything. 4. Happiness be happy, be more positive. It's so much easier to be negative/worry/be a miserable git. Are you a man and haven't found a woman who meets these expectations? Cut your losses. You wouldn't be stuck with someone like long term. They will bring you down. 2
Nikki Sahagin Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 I really hate check lists like this. When I met my bf he was out of work, he is 5'6 (arguably short) and has close cropped hair. I love him because he was HONEST, showed me his vulnerable side, LOYAL and incredibly affectionate and loving.
Toodaloo Posted October 19, 2015 Posted October 19, 2015 I wonder how a similar women self pity thread would look. It should feature Size of the Breasts, Length of the Legs, Thinness of the Thighs and Tightness of the Vagina, on top of Hair Height and Money - because men nowadays don't want no hoes ! Thanks Candie I haven't done my kegals today mustn't forget to have a nice tight vag!
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