Ruby212 Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 I started working in the company I'm in now 2 years ago. There was this guy on a different team, nice pleasant, we got on well but I didnt really know him. Then he moved to my team and became my supervisor. We got on like a house on fire. Always chatting having a joke. We email each other through out the day chatting. Now we text eachother daily and exchange photos, snap chat etc. It's all very innocent but I cant help feel that it feels wrong as he has a fiance. At first I saw him just as a friend but as time went on I realised that I was beginning to have feelings for him. We had a few work nights out and it always seemed to be me and him left at the end of the night. He lives quite close to where we were out so he invited me back to his to spend the night as he didnt want me getting a taxi home alone. I of course declined. The thing is his finace was at home but he wasnt saying it like that he was like you can sleep in the spare room its not a problem. We have had a few other nights out since then and he always offers but of course I decline. we seems to be texting each other more and more now. We have another work night out soon and I'm thinking should I take him up on his offer? Should I go back to his and see what happens? I know its so bad but I can't help how I feel and I think he feels the same way. Please if anyone could lend some advice I would greatly appreciate it. thanks, Ruby.
newmoon Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 sure, do it. and then watch when he treats you the same way he is treating his fiance. you won't be the special one. 1
MidwestUSA Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 No. And no. And all the same answers you got two weeks ago. You're still thinking about this?
Lurkeraspect Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 Looks like this has been asked and answered. I'm guessing you're hoping that someone will come along and say, sure, go for it. Why are you all wrapped up in your soon to be married boss? Why do you think he's some quality guy? How would you feel if you were his fiancé and he was doing to you what he's doing to her? He's not even married to her, and he's well in his way to cheating on her. So, it's doubtful he sees you as anything other than a fling if he can work out the logistics. So, I'd advise knocking off all the texting and snapchat and the after hours meet ups. Unless you're up for being the side chick, then by all means, go for it. 2
Madame_Noire Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 If he sniffs after you and cheats on his fiancee, he will ALMOST CERTAINLY cheat on you. There, cleared that up, but the amount of times it has to be said these days is becoming a bit of a cliche! You are just massaging his ego, that is all you are too him, an ego boost. It is only because you are giving him the time of day why he is continuing the way he is. Have some self-respect. And certainly don't sleep with co-workers. I hope his fiancee wakes up, sees him for the douche that he really is and finds herself a REAL MAN.
SoulCat Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 Aside from the fact he's engaged to another woman, he is also your supervisor. Getting involved with your superior at work is in itself a really bad idea. It could have major ramifications for your job and your career. 1
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