surfergirl1 Posted May 21, 2005 Posted May 21, 2005 I am new here and have a question. A really dumb one probably but hey, here it is anyways...... I am 32 year old almost divorced woman who has never dated and has 3 kids. When I say never dated, I mean I have NEVER dated. I was basically married at 17 and we hooked up at a party after a few cocktails, got married a couple years later, kids a couple years after that and 15 years later we are getting divorced! So the whole dating scene is new to me and I am being very cautious not to mention that I am incredibly shy and seem to be getting "hit on" mostly by unavailable men, either married or dating someone else or by men that are too immature for me to even consider given the fact that I have 3 kids. Now to the question. I recently got a phone call from a friend that I have known since Highschool whose wife died a few years ago tragically and I havent spoken to him in about 6 months. We have had several conversations both right at the end of my marriage and shortly after my husband moved out. We get along really well and every time we talked the conversations went on and on until one of us would realize we had been chatting for over an hour or two. At that point, we were discussing the challenges of being in the dating realm as a single parent and how the bar scene was just not going to work etc etc but it was very, very platonic and we would joke that he would keep his eyes open for me and vice versa. He started a new job about 6 months ago and I didnt ever see him anymore as his office was next door to mine so we sort of lost touch. So about a week ago he called me just to see how I was and see if we could "get a bite to eat" and catch up. I said yes and we are going to have lunch this week. My question is this........ Is this a date? or just an old friend trying to catch up? I have not really been interested in dating anyone until he called and then I got kind of excited because he is such a great guy but I dont want to get my hopes up that it is a date if that is not what it is. Of course, I am analyzing every word of the conversation we had trying to figure it out......he asked me if I had been going on three dates a week or what and I just laughed and told him the problem I was having being hit on by unavailable people and he said he was having the same problem but except for that comment, the word DATE never came up. I feel like I am 32 years old and I am asking a question for a teenager but I am just curious if anyone has any ideas if this is a mans way of asking me out or is he just really wanting to catch up>
westernxer Posted May 21, 2005 Posted May 21, 2005 He's not trying to catch up because he's a nice guy. Of course he's interested in you. Right now he's trying to see if there's potential. If all goes well, you'll be dating in no time.
lil_country_cowgirl Posted June 3, 2005 Posted June 3, 2005 He's interested in u!!! Definately. It's not just a "catch up." He has feelings for u and wants to know if u feel that same.
noname Posted June 3, 2005 Posted June 3, 2005 he is probably interested in something. but does it really matter that much? meet with him and just let things happen naturally. he will let you know. or just ask him. you are both mature enough to discuss it. you can even make a joke out of it and read his body language...
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