Drone Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 Strict NC since 23rd of August. I realized only today that I have resent by accident an old email to my ex. Some 2 weeks ago I was cleaning up my mail box from my smartphone, a new phone, so I wasn't used to the interface and obviously somehow instead of hitting 'delete' I somehow did 'forward' this old email to him. Completely meaningless email about setting up a time/place for a date, back then a few months ago. Is this considered breaking NC? I was religiously following the NC rule and it is a great tool to help moving on. So, it is upsetting to find out today that technically I did reach out to ex. Should I send a follow up e-mail to clarify that was a mistake? I'm more inclined not to, but still worth asking the community opinion. Thank you all
d0nnivain Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 You made a technology error. Whether there are Freudian sub-conscious motives under there I can't say but it was an accident. A follow up explanatory email would be deliberate. Don't send it. Just go on as if the error did not occur.
OK_computer Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 Strict NC since 23rd of August. I realized only today that I have resent by accident an old email to my ex. Some 2 weeks ago I was cleaning up my mail box from my smartphone, a new phone, so I wasn't used to the interface and obviously somehow instead of hitting 'delete' I somehow did 'forward' this old email to him. Completely meaningless email about setting up a time/place for a date, back then a few months ago. Is this considered breaking NC? I was religiously following the NC rule and it is a great tool to help moving on. So, it is upsetting to find out today that technically I did reach out to ex. Should I send a follow up e-mail to clarify that was a mistake? I'm more inclined not to, but still worth asking the community opinion. Thank you all leave it alone. im assuming he never replied.
Author Drone Posted October 16, 2015 Author Posted October 16, 2015 (edited) leave it alone. im assuming he never replied. No, he didn't, fortunately. This is reassuring me that most probably he figured out it had been a meaningless contact. The first moment when I realized that I had sent en e-mail two weeks ago, I was pissed, but then a few moments later, I went back to feeling calm, thinking "so what if he thought I was fishing in a stupid, immature way? He can think what he wants, and I do not care." So, perhaps this new found indifference is a good sign that I'm moving on. Edited October 16, 2015 by Drone
OK_computer Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 Right..So forget about it and never dwell on it again. It was an error.
Author Drone Posted October 16, 2015 Author Posted October 16, 2015 yep, will do. thank you for confirming that's the right thing to do.
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