autumnnight Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 OH, crap, can't you guys just find another gf? What is self-respect? What is whoring? What is discretion? I think that men who stay with these women while complaining about them like the perceived control of thinking they have the moral upper hand. Or they like the sympathy they get for being martyrs. 4
deadelvis Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 I think that men who stay with these women while complaining about them like the perceived control of thinking they have the moral upper hand. Or they like the sympathy they get for being martyrs. Or maybe they just fall in love with someone before finding out about the persons whorrendous sexual history...
oldshirt Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 If OP were her husband, then she has something to apologize for. when she did the deeds, had it ever occurred to her that someday someone is going to fall in love and marry her?! nobody forced her to do those things. she did on her own without any regard to her future man. If she ever think and gonna to respect her future man, she wouldn't have done those things that will cause her man pains. WHY is this his issue? you think having problem with a partner who will have sex with anyone is an issue? Are you serious???????? She owed him nothing before they met. What she did on her own time was her business and between her and the people she was with. It was no one else's business. She owed nobody a future chastity. If he doesn't want to be with the town whore, that's his business and his right. He is perfectly within his right to not associate with whoever he does not want to associate with. He is perfectly in his right to end this relationship and go find someone else if he doesn't approve of her previous actions. But she owed him nothing prior to becoming involved with him. Nothing. Women's virginity or sexual virtue is a not a male birthright. Men are not entitled to women's chastity or virtue before they become involved with them. If both parties mutualy agree to sexual exclusivity after becoming involved, that's a bit different. But no one, man or woman is entitled to someone's chastity before they become involved. 1
oldshirt Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 Are you serious???????? She owed him nothing before they met. What she did on her own time was her business and between her and the people she was with. It was no one else's business. She owed nobody a future chastity. If he doesn't want to be with the town whore, that's his business and his right. He is perfectly within his right to not associate with whoever he does not want to associate with. He is perfectly in his right to end this relationship and go find someone else if he doesn't approve of her previous actions. But she owed him nothing prior to becoming involved with him. Nothing. Women's virginity or sexual virtue is a not a male birthright. Men are not entitled to women's chastity or virtue before they become involved with them. If both parties mutualy agree to sexual exclusivity after becoming involved, that's a bit different. But no one, man or woman is entitled to someone's chastity before they become involved. Now during her stint as the town whore, she was running the risk that people, including potential suitors, might judge her and not wish to associate with her. that is a definite risk on her part and if the world's perfect husband material does not wish to take her as a wife because of it, then that is the risk she took and the consequence she bore. That's on her. But she has virtually zero obligation to provide anything to any person she has not yet met or become involved with. And she certainly owes no one that she has not harmed through her actions any form of apology in any way shape or form. She did not harm the OP. The OP simply did not like what he heard and did not approve of her actions before he met her. he was not harmed and he has no obligations to continue seeing her.
autumnnight Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 Or maybe they just fall in love with someone before finding out about the persons whorrendous sexual history... A man who refers to his girlfriend in those terms doesn't love her. 2
RedRobin Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 Or maybe they just fall in love with someone before finding out about the persons whorrendous sexual history... Maybe those men should get to know a woman before having sex with her? I find it a little odd that it's ok for the guy (him) to have sex with her, but no one else can? Or should have? OTOH, if someone lies about their history and values before getting involved, then yea, I see the issue. But that's not the case here... The case is some men who don't exercise discretion themselves, then want to point the finger at the woman. Or treat her like crap after the fact. That's not cool. Do your homework and take responsibility for your own choices. Which include maybe not having sex with someone until you get to know them if you can't handle what you learn about them sexually after the fact. 1
loveflower Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 But that's not the case here... The case is some men who don't exercise discretion themselves, then want to point the finger at the woman. Or treat her like crap after the fact. That's not cool. Do your homework and take responsibility for your own choices. Which include maybe not having sex with someone until you get to know them if you can't handle what you learn about them sexually after the fact. haven't you read the OP's post? he only had one before her while she had dozens. he accepted his choice. He is just basically asking how he can swallow it when it's so difficult for him.
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