bornandbred Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 I met this girl 6 months ago, we went on a couple of dates over the course of the first month or so and they we started seeing each other every week. We only see each other twice a week most weeks, basically she’s just finished a degree and is now working a full time job but also does a few hours part time after her normal job, I understand it leaves little time for her and for a while I’ve been happy with what we are doing as we both like a bit of our own time anyway but here’s my problem……. Obviously when we first started seeing each other we was txting all the time, having a laugh, being flirty ect, she’d often say she’s excited to see me tomorrow or whatever and looking forward to cuddling up ect. Over the past week this has just suddenly stopped, I’ve mentioned it to her and her reply is “after a while things change, you don’t keep that up forever” which is totally fine. It just seems to me that it’s a massive drastic change, not one flirty message in over a week. We had a bit of a clear the air talk a few days ago and I said if you’re not feeling this anymore then we can call it a day and explained that I feel she’s been very distant. She said that she does want to carry on seeing me and has just been really busy at work ect and if she didn’t she would soon say, but I just can’t help but feel it feels different when we see each other now. She’s always on her phone txting her friends when before she would send maybe one or two through the course of the night, I just feel like I’m not getting a lot back. I am one to overthink things and can sometimes make things worse than what they actually are. Its just been a difficult past week and a bit, i think i may have mentioned it to much and not let the issue drop. What’s your thought, has she lost interest, intrested in someone else or am I just making a mountain out of a mole hill.
Truth34 Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 Been there done that. I can say with pretty much 100% certainty that she is/has lost some interest. Sucks the big one, and you will probably get no explanation as to why. Salvage your image and back off. Time to let go fully, not NC or anything, but right now you are the vulnerable one. Dont be a dick to her, dont bring up how youre feeling, and just go with the flow. If you ask her how she is feelijg and whats up, youre digging youre own grave deeper.
Zippy2000 Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 Over the past week this has just suddenly stopped, I’ve mentioned it to her and her reply is “after a while things change, you don’t keep that up forever” which is totally fine. It just seems to me that it’s a massive drastic change, not one flirty message in over a week. We had a bit of a clear the air talk a few days ago and I said if you’re not feeling this anymore then we can call it a day and explained that I feel she’s been very distant.. Don Juan never pushes a woman and asks her whats wrong. This puts pressure on her. Don Juan will always be the fun man to be with and not clingy and hard work. Are you sure she isnt cooling down instead of fading away? Theres a difference. If you start asking questions and qurstioning your own start of the relationship. She may recondier you are not don Juan but an unsecure anxious type of guy.
d0nnivain Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 If you are still seeing each other weekly & the dates are good, leave it be. Nobody keeps up the hot & heavy texting pace from the beginning. In person communication is so much better anyway.
Author bornandbred Posted October 16, 2015 Author Posted October 16, 2015 this is my problem, i think ive brought it up to much already. i am seeing her tommorrow while she babysits for her brother and we're gonna get a take away and chill. im willing to forget everything and carry on as normal and see how it goes 2
Ryan_XD Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 Sounds like she's starting to disconnect herself from the relationship. A lot of women do this and when it comes to them breaking up with you, they've already been emotionally disconnected from you and the relationship for a few months. I might be wrong though, if I was you I'd leave this subject for awhile and just observe her behaviour around you in person. If she's great to you in person then don't worry about her not texting you as much or being as flirty. Keep us updated!
Author bornandbred Posted October 16, 2015 Author Posted October 16, 2015 Sounds like she's starting to disconnect herself from the relationship. A lot of women do this and when it comes to them breaking up with you, they've already been emotionally disconnected from you and the relationship for a few months. I might be wrong though, if I was you I'd leave this subject for awhile and just observe her behaviour around you in person. If she's great to you in person then don't worry about her not texting you as much or being as flirty. Keep us updated! i did think this but i said we should end it a few days back as it just didnt feel right and she said she didnt want to, surly she would have just walked then if shes feeling like that?
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