Lukeee. Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 (edited) My ex broke up with me last Friday, the usual "... we don't want the same things" (even though we do), "..once I fell in love with you, it all went down hill from there", "... your mature, but not mature enough to be with me", excuses after excuses basically. Okay, I may be a year younger than her, but I'm certainly a mature adult. The day after we broke up, she sent me a message saying on the lines of... "As me and my best friend aren't doing anything tonight, would you be okay if we tagged a long to my friends party?...", so she was just checking if it would be okay, I said "It would be okay as you're her friend as well.. " as I'm a mature adult about it. Then the next day she sent me another at like 10:30pm saying... "I hope that Saturday was too awkward/hard for you and you had a good time :)"... I didn't reply till the next day and said... "No If I'm honest, I don't think it was, but I had a really good time thanks :)" and then.. Wednesday she said.. "I know I said I would give you space, and I will I promise! But I really need to pick your brain, as your IT based, do you know where I can get a good laminator?"... I was thinking to myself, why can't you go look yourself? So... I didn't reply for like half an hour and said "Sorry, I've just finished my ironing, I've had a quick look and there's a cheap one in argos, here's the link... bla bla".. she then replies "No I'm sorry for disturbing you!! Thank you SO much!!!!!"... To every text I gave a short response, no intention of making conversation. I didn't reply straight away as I use too. Am I on the right track? Bare in mind... I have not contacted her once since we broke up. Let me know ASAP. Edited October 16, 2015 by Lukeee.
organizedchaos Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 No, you're not on the right track. She doesn't respect you and you're her doormat. You should not be responding AT ALL. Show her if she doesn't think you're good enough to be with her she can find someone else to give her IT advice. Go silent and vanish from her life. And read this. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/495016-consolidated-discussion-no-contact-guide-no-contact-process-experience 1
Protec Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 Do women read somekind of manual "This is how you break up". Because i swear, almost every woman says the same things. "You are mature, but not mature enough..." etc. I feel that sometimes women think that if you are playful, it means that you are a child. I don't know if you are playful nature or not, but just came in to my mind. My ex usually said "you are not an adult!!!". I am a playful fellow, still 100% capable doing my adult businesses. She was 10 years younger than me. Yes. She was perfect example of an adult...not. 2
dumbass2 Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 Like the other poster said, no, you are not on the right track. It doesn't matter if you reply short or if you take longer than you use to to reply, the fact is that you reply after SHE broke up with you. You are acting like a doormat. Really think about this. She just told you she doesn't want to be in a romantic relationship with you any more. She essentially has rejected you as a partner. Please, for your self respect, do not give her anything else and ignore her and let her feel the loss, if she is capable. If you're there for her she will think "hey great, I have a new male girlfriend" 1
Meli22 Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 Id tell her to F off. If you break up with someone, why feel the need to text them trivial questions? It's all mind games. Tell her to do one or don't ever respond. 1
BonerFide Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 Dude yeah, don't reply. She's your ex, and she's coming to you for IT advice? WTF? It sounds like she's just trying to keep the lines of communication open so she doesn't feel guilty, and you're making things a whole lot easier for her by replying, because she won't feel bad about moving on as you're being so friendly. She's your ex, not you buddy from college seeking some friendly advice. Google exists for a reason. From now on, I would just screen her calls and not reply to anything. Let her actually miss you. 1
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