Gretzky99 Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 After the immediate grieving process has ended where one endures emotional pain from being dumped, do some of you look back and think about the other girl(s)/guy(s) that you had a potential in being in a R/S before your ex? I had 2 other girls that I had serious potential with in being in a R/S, and can't help but think about them, now. It's nothing deep but the thought has come across my mind on more than a few occasions especially when I've come across them thru Facebook. Unfortunately, for me, one of them is now engaged and another is in a R/S. I regret my decision deeply, looking back now.
LoveIsMyReligion Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 We always want what we can't have. Do you really miss them as a person or do you miss being a relationship in general? 1
Author Gretzky99 Posted October 16, 2015 Author Posted October 16, 2015 We always want what we can't have. Do you really miss them as a person or do you miss being a relationship in general? Wow, that's a very good point!! I miss my ex, mostly. I just think it gets compounded when you have social media and everything is so in your face. I recently deactivated my account and saw two of the other girls I had a potential being with, now in relationships.
xxCourt96xx Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 Yeah...I liked him and tried my hardest to get with him, but he was confused by his feelings for me so he kind of strung me along until my now-ex came along and I went off with him instead. That was when he realized that he was in love with me, but by then I was already happy with my ex. He tried making me see sense at one point that my ex wasn't right for me and that he could be better. Eventually he found a girl that he's crazy about and him and I are best friends, but I think about the 'what ifs' all the time...what life could have been like if I had just let him sort out his feelings because I know he would have made me happy. We both agree that yes, we love each other, but it's not a romantic type of love...it's more of a deep understanding love for each other. Life happens.
icebreaker1 Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 After the immediate grieving process has ended where one endures emotional pain from being dumped, do some of you look back and think about the other girl(s)/guy(s) that you had a potential in being in a R/S before your ex? I had 2 other girls that I had serious potential with in being in a R/S, and can't help but think about them, now. It's nothing deep but the thought has come across my mind on more than a few occasions especially when I've come across them thru Facebook. Unfortunately, for me, one of them is now engaged and another is in a R/S. I regret my decision deeply, looking back now. This is so sad, but unfortunately I'm going through this right now. I liked a young woman in the office but had to resist because I felt it might be a conflict that we worked together. Now she's with someone else and I realize that I really underestimated my feelings for her. I really haven't gotten over her - I'm still grieving - and now I'm starting to reminisce on the days when she was unattached and I had a shot at her. And of course, I remember the other ones who got away in my life and wondered what would have happened if I did say "yes" and pursued a relationship with them. With one of them, I dated for a few months and realized that it wasn't going anywhere. I suspect she is dating someone now, even though she doesn't say anything. I miss the days when she felt something for me, and I for her. Sadly, I too engage in the "what if" game...
d0nnivain Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 No. I have good judgment. If when I was starting to date my EX, I had to chose between him & others, I know I chose him for a reason. Even though he didn't work out -- hence being an EX -- that doesn't mean I ever gave a 2nd thought to those who didn't make the cut that last time. If my EX was better than they were for me then, even though my EX is now my EX, why would I want to date a lesser man / match?
OK_computer Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 After the immediate grieving process has ended where one endures emotional pain from being dumped, do some of you look back and think about the other girl(s)/guy(s) that you had a potential in being in a R/S before your ex? I had 2 other girls that I had serious potential with in being in a R/S, and can't help but think about them, now. It's nothing deep but the thought has come across my mind on more than a few occasions especially when I've come across them thru Facebook. Unfortunately, for me, one of them is now engaged and another is in a R/S. I regret my decision deeply, looking back now. I get what you're saying, I had this very thing happen to me just this week. The girl i'm into right now told me she wanted some space and I started freaking out. While I was processing this 'space' thing I couldn't stop thinking about my previous ex and the one before her, both of whom I don't have any strong feelings either way towards. But passing thoughts like, "I wonder if this would've happened with her" or "she wouldn't have said this to me" or "wonder what life would've been like if we were still together." But nothing so strong that I would act on any of those thoughts. I feel it's because i'm not out dating or meeting enough new people at the moment. Luckily this girl only needed 2 days of space before things are back to normal, basically.
Meli22 Posted October 17, 2015 Posted October 17, 2015 No I don't. There's never been anyone who's stood out. My previous ex was a jerk, and guys I have dated in between have either been jerks too, or just not enough in common.
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