Is There Any Value in Online Dating for Guys?

[Karine26]

Nah. I was a model for an agency, did stuff with H&M and Rue 21. Didn't and still don't have women flocking to me. The ones that do give me a chance, like I said, say that they almost didn't because I looked like a player and they thought I'd just cheat and hurt them. Or they say I intimidate women.

 

So I probably end up with less options than your everyday guy.

 

As for you adagio, you're in good shape. Better than me. I vote you check out Eharmony and Match. There are some high quality fish in those lakes.

 

That makes a lot of sense. Beauty can be a blessing and a curse lol I am on Match. There's quality but I feel I get the same 50 people in my search -which is not even that specific- and I live in a big city.

 

But I got to join for free I think they are doing a promotion for a month. Give it a try OP.

[AdagioForStrings]

I guess I just assume if a guy looks like a male model and sees a girl he's interested in he would be confident enough to do it in real life and not sit back and passively wait for a girl to do all the work.

 

well I was obviously implying the male version of the same reasons

 

IE doesn't go to bars, talks to women but none of them want to be asked out, doesn't want to get in trouble by hitting on a co worker, etc...

[AdagioForStrings]

 

But I got to join for free I think they are doing a promotion for a month. Give it a try OP.

 

don't listen to that dude's nonsense

 

He's had sex with very attractive women on online dating sites, that's all you need to know. 99% of men say can't even get a response from average looking females online. He's incredibly fortunate and is not even remotely grateful for it.

 

If I had his pretty boy looks, I wouldn't be posting here. I would have had a girlfriend by now. I don't even want to look like him - I like looking rugged and older but women my age don't respond to that and I don't want to date 50 year olds.

[Strength in Healing]

That makes a lot of sense. Beauty can be a blessing and a curse lol I am on Match. There's quality but I feel I get the same 50 people in my search -which is not even that specific- and I live in a big city.

 

But I got to join for free I think they are doing a promotion for a month. Give it a try OP.

 

Try Eharmony! There were more options on that. And those people seem legitimate. They want something meaningful.

 

And I actually didn't sleep with many. I always strived to keep my number low, which is a bit different than what most guys aim for.

 

Saw your face picture, you definitely have strong features. Clearly what's standing in your way solely is your doubt in your ability. I've seen guys far worse looking than you getting model looking women. It comes down to confidence. Sounds cliche, but that's a fact. You have the looks to pull it off.

[oberkeat]

We all know online dating for women is pretty marvelous - you can create an account and be hit on endlessly by men way better looking than yourself.

 

 

Is there any value at all for men? I've thought about creating an account with professional pictures but I'm very apprehensive in doing it - all I hear is about how horrible online dating is for guys. How it's nearly impossible to get a response from anybody halfway decent looking.

 

 

I am college educated, very successful, classy, stylish, very fit, no kids, never been married. In online dating terms, this means I will get matched up with a chubby single mother who works as a waitress who at Denny's who has 9 kids. The female version of me is looking to date a movie star or a world famous movie star. Is that incorrect to believe?

 

I have very few good things to say about online dating. It just didn't work for me. Sure, I was getting dates, but the women I met online were all terrible. I got tired of dealing with flakes, serial daters, women with baggage, etc. It was also incredibly time consuming. It takes days of messaging just to get to a first meeting. I gave up and deleted my profile, and I will not be going back.

[AdagioForStrings]

Try Eharmony! There were more options on that. And those people seem legitimate. They want something meaningful.

 

this is another part of the equation that's incredibly, incredibly discouraging

 

All I want is a girlfriend. I don't care at all about just getting laid or having sex with multiple women so I look at dating the same way women do. You would think that would make things simple for me right?

 

 

 

Saw your face picture, you definitely have strong features. Clearly what's standing in your way solely is your doubt in your ability. I've seen guys far worse looking than you getting model looking women. It comes down to confidence. Sounds cliche, but that's a fact. You have the looks to pull it off.

 

 

My Spanish/Middle Eastern looks are a huge downside for me

 

American women want guys who look like Gi Joe. They don't want somebody who could pass as being Arabic. My sister looks Arabic too but white men go ape sh*t for that for some reason.

 

There's nothing I could do except maybe get plastic surgery to look white but that's gay as hell so I will never do that...and I can't date arabs because most of them are heavily muslim/religious and I'm agnostic and very white washed in general. I'm stuck in that no man's land.

[SwordofFlame]

Are you one of those minority people that don't date their own race and prefer white women? If so, you might want to move to a liberal area to increase your odds of success.

[AdagioForStrings]

Are you one of those minority people that don't date their own race and prefer white women? If so, you might want to move to a liberal area to increase your odds of success.

 

 

arab women can be very beautiful - the problem is that I can't really date middle easterners because religion is a huge part of that region and I REALLY don't care for religion, especially Islam.

 

 

I'm open to dating whites and latinas

 

 

I'm not a FOB or a heavy foreigner. I've grown up in America and I love American culture. All my friends are white - I play in a football league, etc... I speak perfect English with no accent.

[Strength in Healing]

Your own perceptions are coming true. Self fulfilling prophecies. Plenty of women very good looking would be open to dating you. But until you understand that you and you alone are holding yourself back, then you'll always make excuses and tell yourself women don't want this or that, and you'll end up with the results you chose. So many people of both sexes do this.

 

In psychology there's a theory about choices. We all make choices. Even when we don't do anything, that's a choice. You're making the choice that I mentioned above. Make a different choice and you'll get different results.

Edited October 16, 2015 by Strength in Healing