Michellinda Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 Hey everyone. Thanks for taking time out and reading this post. So I met this guy in May from the beginning he told me he just got out of a 7 year relationship and didnt want to jump into something. He said he wanted to take it slow. I was ok with it because we both agreed that it had been awhile that we felt this type of connection with a person and I felt crazy attraction for him and enjoyed being with him. Now it is October and its been horrible for me. I feel like crying. He plays mind games (asking me to be his girlfriend (twice) then saying he doesnt remember asking) He also insults me (called me fat, that I need a breast reduction, that I am a ditz, that I am a whore, that my legs are tree trunks etc) but says that he is joking when I get upset at him. He also has said that I am not as hot as I think I am. When I tell him I dont like this type of joking he says I'm too sensitive. A little about myself I am an attractive and basically always happy. I am by no means fat but I am curvy I have big breasts and a booty (hourglass shape) I do have many suitors and he is my fb friend and sees guys constantly posting about liking me. I have gotten picked up by men when I am out with him and he has gotten furious and jealous about it. The night he told me to wear pants because I have tree trunks for legs I wore a skirt and a couple out of the blue infront of him said you have the most amazing legs we cant stop staring and he just stayed quiet. He has told me that in the past with a girl he was in love with he used to treat her horribly just to test her. He also told me I reminded him of said girl. I know I have a problem because even after all of this I still like him and want to be with him. There are times he is very sweet with me and he just feels like a perfect fit when we are good but this last time he said I dont want a relationship but I really like you borderline love you and I was honest and told him I was falling for him. So last night he had off from work.. I didnt hear from him the whole day/night (he contacts me everyday) and I saw he was on a dating app and it just hit me I am done with him and being treated badly and I blocked him. I need to hear that I made the right decision. I honestly feel horrible and keep thinking what was it about me that he doesnt want. I dont even think he deserves an explanation about why I am no longer going to talk to him. Is it smart to just block and ignore him!?!? Thank you all.
Shock148 Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 Of course you made the right decision. That guy is a tool. What are you in the 5th grade? Testing girls to see how strong they are by taking his insults and emotional abuse? No, that guy has issues and the fact that you were falling for him is sad. However, you smartened up and blocked that idiot from contacting you. Please don't go back. 1
Author Michellinda Posted October 15, 2015 Author Posted October 15, 2015 Thank you Shock148 I know I have decided I need therapy because I keep thinking something is wrong with me. I am not going to allow someone to make me feel bad about myself. I dont want to fall back into it thats why I think my only option was to block him so I dont see his name coming up on my phone. I needed to your reply so I can remain strong and keep him blocked. 1
Shock148 Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 Well since we cannot send private messages to each other, just post things here when you are feeling down or weak. Myself and others on this site will help you and give you advice. It's always hard going no contact but it gets easier as time goes on.
Author Michellinda Posted October 15, 2015 Author Posted October 15, 2015 Thank you Shock148 I do feel down about it but best thing I did was block this douche bag!!!!!! 1
Shock148 Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 (edited) But for now, yeah you will have your ups and downs. Make sure to block him on facebook and any other social media you have him on. Whenever you feel like you want to contact him, post it here and I can tell you reasons why you should not do it. Edited October 16, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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