Im scared that he is planning revenge??

[bella111]

I was seeing this guy in a friendly wat last year for only about 2/3 months. I am 23 and he is 30 years older than me. He got me drunk at his place and told me to come in his room and he played with himself in front of me but I did not want to have sex with him and he didn't force me to.he held me in his arms and said he will always protect me.then he asked me out to dinner and said "so when are you going to be my girlfriend?" I rejected him saying im dating someone else and to get lost. He got really mad and said I "lead him on" yet I never had intercourse with him and never did anything to make him assume we would ever date. I've been on a dating site ever since and now he comes up as one of my matches. He has made numerous fake profiles pretending to be someone else and contacting me trying to set up dates in his RV and im very nervous. How will I ever meet someone on dating sites if he is on there making fake profiles pretending to be someone else? what do you think is planning by doing that? does he want revenge? Please help

[autumnnight]

First...if you spent time with him, intimate things happened, you let him by you dinner, etc. I can completely understand (especially given his age bracket) why he thought you were dating. So he has a point about leading him on.

 

BUT

 

That does not give him the right to stalk, threaten, harass, or in any other way harm or scare you or anyone else in your life. There are people out there who assume that if you make them mad or say the wrong thing or even lie to them, that gives them carte blanch to go psycho and turn your life upside down.

 

It doesn't. And the law agrees.

 

Document every single thing that happens - every fake profile, every email, every message, every text. If you begin interacting with another guy from the site and this man interrupts or talks to that guy about you, document that too. Get familiar with the harassment, stalking, and bullying laws in your state.

 

You can contact an attorney to get a cease and desist letter, OR you can craft your own and send it certified mail with a receipt.

 

IF he continues after that, then you can contact law enforcement with all of the information, along with an attorney. In fact, most attorneys do the initial consultation for free, so you might want to go ahead and talk to one.

 

At any rate....if he is going to take the gloves off, you be ready to take yours off too, and grow some looooong fingernails

[Michelle ma Belle]

He is 30 years OLDER than you...making him 53 at the time? How and where did you meet him?

 

I'm sorry but I'm having a difficult time wrapping my brain around this. First, YOU got yourself drunk. Unless he roofied you or force fed you alcohol against your will, you need to take some responsibility for your actions. If he did either of those things then you should have reported him immediately.

 

Getting back to your question about revenge, I'm not sure what kind of revenge he can get if you didn't do anything with him.

 

How do you know he created all these fake profiles?

 

I agree that this guy makes me a tad nervous too. At the very least you need to document everything. Block his phone number if you haven't already, remove him from any social media accounts you have and make them all private. If need be, change your email and anything else he has access to. If he continues to stalk you on OLD, block him and/or report him. All legit dating sites have these capabilities.

 

It's a start if nothing else.

[jen1447]

It's probably just idle curiosity hon. He'll get bored of it eventually and chase after whatever new thing catches his attention like a dog. It'll be ok.

[d0nnivain]

The other members of the dating site don't know that you know him.

 

 

Just a tip going forward, when at a man's house who you are not intimate with, limit your alcohol intake. Unless he held you down & pour the drink into your mouth, he did not "get you drunk." Moreover, unless he locked you in, if you weren't interested in his masturbation show you should have walked into the other room & called a cab to get you out of there, not stuck around & then cuddled afterwards.

[Shock148]

Lmao @ giving him no indication. Ummm you gave him every indication you wanted to date him or at least were interested in him when you decided to go over to his place, get drunk with him, watch him whip out his penis and jerk off in front of you, then cuddle and sleep in the same bed with him after he was done getting off. And you are surprised that he said you lead him on? You are one weird person. Anyway, he will eventually find another pretty woman to give his attention to, but who knows how long that will take. For now, just ignore him and when meeting matches online, just confirm details about meeting up in a public place, not in an RV lmao. No normal man would randomly meet a woman online and think it's okay to just invite her to an RV first night.

[bella111]

Why would a guy you were seeing (but rejected the offer of being his girlfriend) then go join the dating site he knows you are on and make fake profiles pretending to be other guys to meet up with you?? and especially why would he plan to have a first date in a big RV?? Why would someone plan something like this?? What do you think he could have planned pretending to be someone else then meeting up?

[Stage5Clinger]

Why would a guy you were seeing (but rejected the offer of being his girlfriend) then go join the dating site he knows you are on and make fake profiles pretending to be other guys to meet up with you?? and especially why would he plan to have a first date in a big RV?? Why would someone plan something like this?? What do you think he could have planned pretending to be someone else then meeting up?

 

That is called stalking. Murderers and psychopaths are known for this. He could have literally anything planned and you should be very careful as to protect yourself from him.

[Strength in Healing]

That is called stalking. Murderers and psychopaths are known for this. He could have literally anything planned and you should be very careful as to protect yourself from him.

 

Yeah, or he's just an insecure person with an anxiety disorder.

 

What we can confirm, is there IS a disorder.

 

Which is enough in my opinion. Avoid him like he's got MRSA.

[d0nnivain]

You posted this same Q twice yesterday under a different user name & with more details. . . he's 30 years older than you are; he masturbated in front of you after you said no to sex, then you two cuddled.

 

 

He's unbalanced but you two may be well matched.

[d0nnivain]

I apologize you did use the same screen name both times http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/553176-im-scared-he-planning-revenges:

[Michelle ma Belle]

I agree with d0nnivain. You just posted a similar thread where members responded accordingly but received zero feedback from you either way. Now you've started yet another thread asking the same question.

 

What do you want to hear?