Author Guyouthere Posted October 15, 2015 Author Posted October 15, 2015 (edited) Guyouthere: hon, you want a classy lady that has her act together but you have to be in a place in your life where you can offer the same. You say yourself you're just coming to terms with being single and we've all witnessed your struggle with the latest 24 yo. Would you classify yourself as a classy man? One that has his act together? One that has made peace with his past and is not affected by it any longer? Do you know exactly who you are and what you want? and are you ready to cut off from your life any woman that is not worthy of your attention? Do you have enough confidence to not accept any type of BS from women? Are you happy on your own as a single man? Would you recognize a classy lady if you met one? You were ready to give the moon to the 24yo when she couldn't give you the time of the day. In all actuality, I am quite happy where I am at the moment. I have a job, have good hobbies (also includes producing underwater videos), a close (small) group of friends/people I can trust, a mom who depends on me and I take good care of, own my own home, and live a clean and somewhat normal life (includes going far offshore in a small boat, if thats normal) lol. I don't drink, smoke, or do drugs at all (well an occasional drink with the lady on a rare instance is the exception). I am very firm in those things too. I made peace with my ex wife long ago, even before she left. I forgave her for all she did, that took a while, but I am past that all. That was 17 years of my life (total). This latest relationship with the 24 year old…. well,,, it has been a month now with no contact… she is likely with her new guy, so be it, I have let her go now too. I don't hold grudges, and have come to the conclusion that whatever happens, happens for a reason. I trust God in it all, always have and always will. What I have learned in life is that there are many types of people out there, many who will either be sincere or not, and not to waste time on those who can't or won't appreciate it. Yes life is too short, why waste the time hoping to fix issues someone else has? That wasn't my goal with the last girl, even so appearing that to be the case. I didn't realize how disturbed she was (mostly until I looked into it). I feel 'clean" now…. as this month has shown me too who I AM, and I like what I am, because when it comes down to it, all experienced always builds us up for the future. I am back to my old self, and thats a good thing. Waiting for that person you know is out there….. its like what I do with the treasure hunting,,,,,, requires a lot of patience and stamina…going out under the sea and searching…. sometimes you have to go through the lesser things before you find the jewel, BUT, each "lesser item" dug up helps you with clues to finding what is sought,,,, the gold. And I have learned to be patient and it has payed off, and so it will in life too, once that jewel of a lady comes along. Edited October 15, 2015 by Guyouthere
Krieger Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 But then no one can choose their parents? I guess the main red flag would be the fact that it is as much an issue that it needs to be brought up to the surface and talked about. If people treat things as not really a big deal, they probably aren't. Yea but all I know is I do not want to be like my dad sure he was there but I never got to see him much work two job 7 days a week. I do not want that life for me and my kids so I want to be the father I never had sort of speak .
alphamale Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 Where are the better women out there, a good place to meet one??? good question, I really don't know
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