laylay305 Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 I've been talking to this guy I met online for about 3 weeks. We met once the Sunday before last weekend, stayed out for 4 hours together, and then we went out again last Friday, stayed out a while. That night he told me he doesn't care what we do, he just likes to spend time with me. Things ended well, and he brought up seeing a movie we had talked about for our next date. He's texted me every day since then, and has kept the conversations flowing, but he hasn't asked me out again. I know he's been busy at work, as he's been there until between 8-10 every night (i can verify this), and he hasn't seen his best friend this week, who he usually sees at least a few times a week. I can tell he's been pretty stressed with work based on what he's told me. I've also checked the dating site, and he logs on maybe once a day, so i don't believe he's talking to anyone else, plus he told me he only likes to date one person at a time. Do you guys think that he's just busy? What should I do? Thanks.
RoseWater Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 I've been talking to this guy I met online for about 3 weeks. We met once the Sunday before last weekend, stayed out for 4 hours together, and then we went out again last Friday, stayed out a while. That night he told me he doesn't care what we do, he just likes to spend time with me. Things ended well, and he brought up seeing a movie we had talked about for our next date. He's texted me every day since then, and has kept the conversations flowing, but he hasn't asked me out again. I know he's been busy at work, as he's been there until between 8-10 every night (i can verify this), and he hasn't seen his best friend this week, who he usually sees at least a few times a week. I can tell he's been pretty stressed with work based on what he's told me. I've also checked the dating site, and he logs on maybe once a day, so i don't believe he's talking to anyone else, plus he told me he only likes to date one person at a time. Do you guys think that he's just busy? What should I do? Thanks. This feels a bit stalky. Do you have other guys you can date to keep your mind occupied for now? 1
Toodaloo Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 lay you are coming across as needy and desperate to me... Put down the phone. Next time he sends a "chatty" text do not answer. Wait for the next one. He is busy at work but you are in constant contact all the time. Let him miss you a bit. Also start going out with your friends more and doing other things so you are not always available... then if it goes south you are already getting out and already a step in the right direction. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 This feels a bit stalky. Do you have other guys you can date to keep your mind occupied for now? +1 OP, you need to learn to relax otherwise you're going to drive yourself mental! Dating can suck and can become all consuming if you're not careful which is why you need to get a life and keep your options open until further notice. Good luck.
Author laylay305 Posted October 15, 2015 Author Posted October 15, 2015 I never really thought of it this way...but maybe I am acting needy. He's been the one that initiates the texts, and I typically wait a while to respond, but yeah. I'm not used to being in this much communication. The guys I've dated previously typically haven't been good communicators, so I guess I just ran with it this time. I don't think that I'm necessarily stalky...he likes to send pictures of what he's doing, his classroom, his friend's puppy, so that's how I know where he is. I do have a pretty busy life, I typically work 50 hours a week, and have plans with friends on the weekends. I am off this week, so I have had a bit more free time, which has probably let me overthink things. 3
Jejangles Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 I would stay in loose touch with this guy if you're still interested, but also communicate with others and go on dates with them as well if you're ok with multi dating. If not, make sure you are filling your schedule as you normally would. If he's busy at work, dating may not be a top priority, or maybe he likes to pace getting to know someone, or he only has lukewarm interest, or... Try not to get too "into" any one person early on because you don't know them yet and you don't know their intentions. Live your life, go on dates when you're asked or ask them out if you want to, and see what happens.
d0nnivain Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 Since you already talked about the particular movie, why don't you make arrangements for the two of you to go see it?
Frank2thepoint Posted October 15, 2015 Posted October 15, 2015 I've also checked the dating site, and he logs on maybe once a day, so i don't believe he's talking to anyone else, plus he told me he only likes to date one person at a time. C'mon now, you can't be so naive. He's checking the dating site for other women to date.
scooby-philly Posted October 16, 2015 Posted October 16, 2015 Listen - I'm a guy. Not a player, but a guy. I don't date multiple women at a time. Perhaps I might talk to 2-3 at a time on a dating website if things are going like.... #3 - been talking, can't get number or don't feel the connection #2 - talking for a few days/week #1 - just sent an email, maybe got one back. But until I'm friends with the person, I go back to look at your conversation history, check their photos again, read their profile. not saying this guy is doing the same, but don't automatically places all guys in the douche-bag bucket
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