Guyouthere Posted October 18, 2015 Posted October 18, 2015 you sound obsessed. Thats not a good thing. Move on, and learn from this one. As a guy, I wouldn't be acting like this towards a girl I liked. If she likes you, she will show it. It sounds like she might be or might not be playing you, but in either case, if you continue to act like this, you WILL run her off. Go find another one if you aren't satisfied with this one. 1
Mystique01 Posted October 23, 2015 Posted October 23, 2015 Wow dude.... I think you're overreacting just a bit here..... And, no offense but you're sounding like you're getting really ANGRY at a girl whom you've (to my understanding) never even met before. Not cool.... I know in the past, the guys who turned me off the most were ones who were REALLY into me but treated me like a jerk when I couldn't make plans. It would have been MUCH more attractive if they had been like: "Oh okay that's cool! No worries...we can get together another time then!" You know why?? Because it would have let me know that the guy was reasonable, understanding, and (most importantly!) knew he was a "catch" and didn't need to get all sour and bent out of shape just because things didn't go his way. Honestly, this girl does NOT sound like she's playing you. If anything she sounds like she's just being cautious. A girl PLAYING you would be: -Not answering when you call -Not texting back when you text her, or waiting until hours (or even days) to respond back -Being wishy washy on when or IF to meet -Ending a phone conversation within 10-15 minutes... I mean, if anything, this girl sounded like she actually LIKED you. She just seemed as though (understandably) she was more cautious perhaps because she's never met you before. The thing is - I am starting to get pissed off. I was mad when she hung up first - why? Because she said "Oh, if we are ever gonna meet, I wanna hear your voice first". I didn't want to behave like a dog so I said "well, perhaps I will call you later". Then she said : "well.. do it if you want to. But I don't like the idea of meeting someone without hearing the person's voice first. It's up to you". I wanted the meeting to happen so I called her a few hours later, after having dinner. Then we had a very fun convo ( 1h and 30 min) and then she said she needed to hang up because she had to get up early the next day to go to work. I was ****ing mad at myself because she must think I'm a fool. She made me call her, I did, and she didn't even had the politeness to let me hang up first, she was the one who hung up first. SHE ALWAYS ends the convos first. Moreover, most girls I call always send me a text right after the call or the next morning saying "oh loved talking to you", etc. She didn't send me a thing. I decided I wouldn't send her anything either. And when I told her I wanted to meet her and that I was very serious about that, I asked her what kind of food or what drink she likes, she told me and then I thought "well she is definitely going out with me" but then she ALWAYS says "oh... IF we ever meet..." or things like "you know I can't be too nice to you." I'm ****ing tired of this. IMO she's a ****ing player. Ummmm....no offense, but I would probably want to hear the voice of a "guy" I was meeting in a strange town before actually agreeing to meet him as well! How do I know that you're even a dude?? We could be texting and What's Apping from here to Kingdom come, but that doesn't mean you're really who you SAY you are! There are really some crazies in this world. I didn't see her request to actually hear your voice in person as being odd or "playing games". And honestly, after an hour and a half conversation I'm pretty much ready to hang up the phone myself...even with FRIENDS that I've known for years! I have things to do, I need to go to bed, etc. Honestly, I think your insecurity got in the way. I think maybe you turned this girl off. There might still be a chance,but I wouldn't bet on it. Next time, just learn to chill and relax, and don't expect too much from someone you've never met. I would say the SAME exact thing if a girl posted the same post. 2
dragonfire13 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 Lol Im a girl and I do that...I had no idea that was mixed signals :-/ Look, we women know how easily scared men are, or how easy it is to be labelled "clingy" or "keen" or "desperate". Don't take the lack of initiation as a bad thing, she's just letting you lead. Trust me, if she's not interested she wouldn't even bother respond, or would take her sweet time. If it's bothering you, you could always drop in convo "Hey btw, don't feel like you cant message me too sometimes ;-P".
smackie9 Posted October 25, 2015 Posted October 25, 2015 She sensed your attitude, and bailed. Adjust your attitude and be more relaxed and laid back. 1
travelbug1996 Posted November 25, 2015 Posted November 25, 2015 stay off those PUA forums. You are learning nothing except how to **** any possibility of a relationship down the drain. So lame :lmao::lmao: 1
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